"My girlfriend can be naked, just not around other men" (Patreon)

This is a line I've heard many times before. I have been told it directly by my previous male partner and then again (after I had dumped him) as a leader and facilitator in the naturist community.

I have had many women confide in me saying they want to experience body confidence and freedom through naturism but their partner 'won't let them'.

I have heard it all...

"My boyfriend doesn't want me to be around naked men"

"My boyfriend says my naked body is only for him"

"My boyfriend says I can not look at another penis" 

These words scream that they are threated and they only view the naked body as sexual. That they believe their girlfriend would see another males body or genitals more attractive than theirs. But all this is doing to creating more shame, stigma and issues around the naked body.

I have seen first hand what being naked in a non-sexual setting does for women. It may be their first time seeing another naked women's body for the first time and I see their eyes wander curiously. They see other women's curves, their belly, their breasts, their vulva and they realise it looks nothing like theirs. They realise there is no one size fits all. They realise that every body is so different from the next and that their own body is no as imperfect as they once thought. 

It doesn't matter how many times their boyfriend has told them that they love every inch of their body, women need to create their OWN relationship with the skin that they are in.

So if you have a partner, shared love of naturism or not, would you let them attend events on their own?

[I used gendered terms in this blog to paint a visual picture. But this extends to reversed roles and gender-queer folk. Everybody should love the skin] 

If you are experiencing body confidence issues or feel you are not allowing your partner to experience naturism due to insecurities, please know this is valid and acknowledging this is the first step. 

I will be opening my calendar to 1:1 calls to create a safe space to speak about these limiting beliefs you may hold. Or if you simply want a chat, I am down for that too!