Maximal Ep. 361 | Stop Saying Yes (Patreon)

The Minimalists talk about managing guilt and disappointment when saying "no," natural remedies for anxiety, the difference between being intentional and seeking pleasure, why misery exists in every relationship, and more!

Discussed in this episode:

How do I manage the guilt I feel when I must refuse the requests of others for my assistance? (02:14)

Why is it so difficult to say “no” in the moment? (05:36)

Is it selfish to expect adequate compensation for my time and expertise? (11:59)

What practices have you found helpful for maintaining peace of mind despite the intermittent chaotic onslaught of OCD? (13:52)

How do we remain fiercely intentional even when it’s not pleasurable? (21:11)

How do we determine our ‘enough’? (27:56)

How does misery exist in all relationships? (31:48)

How do we become more diplomatic in our interpersonal communication? (41:31)

How important is it to clarify our outcomes? (49:37)

Segment: Lightning Round (50:46)

How do I appropriately manage the anger I feel toward the transgressions of others? (51:27)

Listener comments and minimalism tips. (57:18)

How can anger be productive? (59:05)

Segment: More About Less (1:07:14)

How do we have a healthy dose of obsession and devotion in our lives? (1:08:41)

Segment: Talkaboutables (1:16:41)

How is capitalism misrepresented? (1:18:40)

What are the three attributes of positive capitalism/voluntaryism? (1:20:58)

Why do you consider “consult your doctor” cowardly advice? (1:28:04)

Who have you found that supports not using sunscreen? (1:31:15)

What is your perspective regarding introversion? (1:40:06)

What has been your experience with unschooling? (1:46:45)

Segment: Amass It or Trash It (1:49:01)

Segment: Obsolete Objects (1:55:47)

Segment: Advertisements Suck (1:59:58)

Segment: Photo Friday Home Tour (2:05:38)

How do we tactfully decline the requests of loved ones? (2:10:08)

Segment: Right Here, Right Now (2:15:30)

Segment: Added Value (2:16:37)

LINKS

Added Value: “Waving a White Flag”

App: Neurocycle

App: Reading Eggs

Book: Anything You Want

Book: Everything That Remains

Book: Hell Yeah or No

Book: Love People, Use Things

Book: The Pale King

Decor: Girard Environmental Enrichment Panels

Essay: Food Is Not Entertainment

Event: Sunday Symposium

Instagram: Humans of Capitalism

Podcast: Angry

Podcast: How to Write Better

Resources: The Minimalists

Subscribe: The Minimalists

Text: 937-202-4654

Twitter: Sam Parr

MAXIMS

To be happy, stop saying “yes” to the things that make you miserable.

What if your weakness was actually your superpower?

Letting go of desire also involves letting go of the desire to let go.

Misery and joy are preexisting conditions.

Feelings are better witnessed than displayed.

Mo’ expectations, mo’ emotions.

Radical inclusion requires complete acceptance.

Feelings are not to be conquered but engaged with imagination.

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