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Overwhelm (Patreon)

Published:
2016-11-04 05:07:46
Imported:
2023-02

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Gonna put this month's topics to a vote soon, but wanted to finish up last month's topics first -- next video will be about ADHD and overwhelm :) There are lots of ways I can go with this, so wanted to check in with you brains as to what's most relevant or helpful for you. So! 1) What gets you overwhelmed? 2) What helps?

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Anonymous

For me it's emotional. Besides me, my household has two ADHDs, a Bipolar II, two agoraphobias, two chronic depressions, a gender dysphoria, a PTSD, an acute anxiety disorder, and a partridge in a pear tree. I'm dealing with chronic depression and ADHD myself. I get overwhelmed when one or more of my immediate family members has a crisis that layers their issues on to me. When that happens, self-care tends to get pushed to the back of the bus and care-giver fatigue swamps my ability to cope. I'm hoping that the bullet journal will help by offloading a lot of my mental bandwidth to my external brain so I can stay focused on what's important. It's a place where I can keep track of self-care - exercise, meditation, sleep, play - so I know when it's been too long since I've done the things I need to keep myself healthy enough to care for others.

Anonymous

I relate to what Jo said - when I get overcommitted and have a ton of things to do, my brain goes into this mode of panicking that I have forgotten something, and I start to feel super overwhelmed and stressed out. Right now what's helping me with that is picking up my bullet journal and just brain dumping all of the things I have to do, and reviewing my lists that I already have. This reassures me that I haven't forgotten anything (or reminds me of when I have) and helps my brain trust the things that I'm thinking about right now won't slip through the cracks.

Anonymous

I do not do more than 5 major tasks a day and commit to a quit time! if at the end of the day 10pm for me, it is not done no worries. it's the first task to do tomorrow.

Anonymous

Everything in life. When I realize how chaotic things are -- my diet, my routine, my job, my finances, etc. Nothing really makes it "better" than taking consistent action. If I stop taking consistent action, I feel crazy again.

Anonymous

Like Udoka, my whole life feels overwhelming -- family, job, diet, finances, friends, and on and on. I try to pick the most urgent task/event/thing (only one!) for each of those areas that I must act on and then write down on my outlook calendar a task to be reminded what I need to do and by when, usually the same day or the day after. That helps to calm me a bit and gives me a plan to work towards.

Anonymous

Multiple things really: - Too much sensory stimulation (can be loud noises, large crowds, an untidy room etc). When this happens, I have to get on my own, in a quiet room, preferably with earplugs in and the curtains closed. I would love a weigted blanket for this, but they're really expensive :( - long to do lists or big tasks which make it impossible to know where and how to start. What helps is to ask a friend to help me get some perspective and find out what the first step is - not expressing what I'm feeling and thinking. This makes me feel like I'm going to explode, which I will eventually if I keep everything in. Writing is really helpful for me, or when the chaos in my head is too big and I can't find words: drawing (: - when I'm hyperfocusing on a problem but can't find a solution I get overwhelmed by my own thoughts in the end

Anonymous

One of many things that overwhelms me is a large task where I do not know where to start. For instance I moved from a house to an apartment. I have a lot of items used to work on a house. I the process of moving I just picked everything up at the house and literally dumped it at the apartment. I had limited storage space at the apartment. So, before I did anything I came up with a plan. Step 1, build some shelves in the storage closet. Step 2, Pick a room that I needed to use the most and work on that one first. Step 3, go through the stuff dumped in the living room that was dumped and throw away what was not needed or used. In some cases I discovered that in a lot of cases when I went through some of the boxed and bins that more than half of them had stuff that could be thrown away. I just never took the time to clean up after a project. The other thing that overwhelms me is when I have too many negative things happening in a short period of time. 2016 has not been a good year for me. I was burning the candle at both ends. I finally had to take a medical leave of absence from work to decompress. Of course, this creates a new issue that I cannot make my child support payments and rent next month. In the past, I have had companies that have actually worked with me. I cannot say that in this case. The worse thing is I knew what was going on this time and tried to warn them but they did not listen. Tim

Anonymous

I forgot to mention on the first one, that in a lot of cases be prepared to make adjustments along the way. I have a flat file cabinet that I thought would fit nicely in the master bedroom closet. I built a stand for it and moved it in there. Well, let's put this way, it fits. I will probably get moved to the spare room. The nice thing about ADHD, you find creative ways to get around it.

Anonymous

Setting priorities. Its tough, especially with a job like mine. I used to have an assistant, but job cuts and all... Now I find myself getting pulled in many different directions. Too many people wanting something, and everything to them is urgent. I try "to do" lists at work, but they never work, because things change on a dime. And, that's just at work. Then there are the priorities at home, or fixing stuff on my truck, or washing dishes, doing laundry. Everything feels urgent, and I never take time out to relax, because it feels like cheating...like I'm being selfish and I should be doing something else. As far as helping... Evernote. I can't say enough about it. Wish I could have it on my computer at work, but I have it on my phone and home PC. The problem comes from the attitude at work about using cell phones. I'm not sitting around checking FB or the web, I use Evernote, my calendar, my app to remind me to take my meds, but all they see is me on my cell phone, and don't care why. Its company policy.... If I could somehow convince them that I needed it, that I would work better, even if its against policy, I could keep track of things so much better. I also have about a 40 minute commute everyday, so I try to listen to music, using aromatherapy (there are some good "focus" blended oils out there) and sometimes just talking through problems. On that note as well, meds do help, but I rarely see mention of using aromatherapy to either calm yourself, or help focus, or even wake up and feel refreshed. There is a lot that our sense of smell can help with!

Anonymous

You just listed out why I am divorced for the second time and out of work for medical leave at a 40% pay cut. I know it is tough. My counselor asks what I do for fun, and I did not. I still do not know what to do for fun now that I do not have a house to take case of, I am concerned about losing my job now. I feel you pain, a word of advice try to find time for yourself. It is not selfish, and you are no good to anyone if you are burnt out which happened to me.

Anonymous

Came up with another thing that ends up getting me overwhelmed , besides my life right now, lake of sleep. Things tend to have an easier way of pushing me over the edge or hitting my triggers when I do not get enough sleep. My mind starts racing and just hits tilt. Which happened today. Solution, was take my anxiety meds and take a nap. If at all possible. If not, take the meds, and make sure I get to bed a little earlier than normal.

Anonymous

One other thing.. walking into my living room. Knowing my son will be here in 6 days and it is still not cleaned up nor is the spare room for him. Of course, the furniture I ordered probably will not get here in time. Sales lady called a week after order to verify something 2 or so weeks ago and then called again on Friday to ask the same thing.