❤️ You're Not Alone ❤️ (We All Know Loneliness) (It's Hard, But We Can Do This) (Patreon)

I literally responded because I felt compelled. This message had no hate, no bile, just an honest expression of loneliness. And who the feck can't relate to that? So, I responded. Obviously, I'm not a therapist, I'm not qualified to give anything but my opinion, but here it is.

Patron who DM'd me:

"U probably won't respond to this but just need somewhere to vent. I have been on dating apps for about a year now and the furthest I've come is talking to two girls for more then 2 days, all the other matches ( which is maybe one a day if I'm lucky) I either get ignored, unmatched or straight up insulted and I'm coming to a point where I'm starting to really don't like girls.  Which I don't want since I know that I can't blame them for not finding me attractive since it's their preferences but having not even kissed someone my entire life (I'm 22) the loneliness I feel is really starting to hurt me to a point where I feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life. You don't have to respond I just wanted somewhere to vent."

My reply:

I understand and empathise. Past experiences can definitely influence the way we view the world. I think it's really positive you don't want to generalise and hate women. That's very sensible and sane. People, regardless of genitalia, are just people.

I feel the exact same way about men. Although I haven't had many good experiences, I know that men are just people and they come in many different shapes and forms and you can't judge an entire group on the actions of a few members.

I understand that you probably needed to vent, but I would always recommend talking to a professional. I'm literally just a woman in a box. If you wanna evoke positive change, you can, with the right support.   

All the best for the future. I wish you luck and I hope you can feel seen and appreciated soon.

Take care.