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"Sexuality is often presented in media as very cartoonish and over-the-top. Sexuality is different for everyone. Just because you see a naked man or woman doesn't mean you'll instantly become possessed by lust. Your relationship with sex is what's right for you."

Media heightens most everything for the purpose of entertainment: shoot outs don't look that cinematic in real life, fights don't go that smoothly, and lust doesn't instantly overcome us at the Meer sight of our preferred genitalia.

My point is please don't think there's anything wrong with you if you don't see your relationship to sex represented in media. 

I've often had people look at me strangely when I've commented that dick pics or even just sexual images do absolutely nothing for me. In fact, genitals removed from all mood, atmosphere, and feeling, are rather unappealing to me. 

For me, when it comes to real sex, not pornography, there has to be a real connection, a real desire to show affection and love for another person. The idea of one night stands doesn't excite me, and truthfully (and rather ironically) porn with actual people in it that I can see, really just makes me embarrassed - I feel like I'm spying on a very private moment and voyuerism is not my thing. 

Ultimately, what I'm saying in a very scrambled way is that there is no one way to feel lust, have sex or respond to your sexuality. People have tried to put me into boxes, saying things like "well, if you don't love penises or vaginas, maybe you're asexual". But I absolutely feel sexual desire and lust, just not in the way that it's often portrayed in porn or other media. I have sex on my own terms and I know what turns me on and off. 

So, please don't feel that your way is wrong because it's not. Only you know what works for you. 

Best wishes, 

Tea