Oversharing Online (WIP) (Patreon)

Twitter is my job and also my diary :')

I find it so much easier to tweet out if I'm struggling than to try and talk to/be comforted by close friends. And every time I see a friend like the tweet it's like, yeah, I feel seen. 

Most of the time, all I want is to be seen. I think a lot of people assume that when I put sad comics out into the world that I'm looking for advice but really I just want to be acknowledged and understood and to know if others feel the same way. 

With that said though, I do think that it's important to draw a line. I don't tweet things that I think are harmful to others just to make myself feel better, and I don't tweet stuff that I've decided is private i.e. I never talk about my relationship with my partner online and I don't make couple comics because our relationship is for us and not for the internet. 

I think we (as in people on the internet) have just collectively decided that oversharing is a bit cringe, but I sometimes get a little curious as to why. Even offline, people naturally get uncomfortable around others' pain. I've seen it first-hand as a disabled person and also again as an abuse survivor. People tend to want to distance themselves from you if what you need to talk about is just a little bit too bleak.

But sometimes there isn't a positive spin to be put on things. Sometimes you just want to be heard and understood for the mess that you are. Sometimes it's important to talk genuinely and honestly about your experiences rather than neatening it up with a happy ending and tbh I don't think there's anything cringey or about that, as long as you're not hurting anyone (including yourself).