Exercise: Relationship Satisfaction Check-In (Patreon)

Hi cutie,

I'm considering developing a detailed Relationship Inventory workbook. So in preparation for that, let's give my first idea a whirl! (And my standard disclaimer around these kinds of resources: I am not a medical or psychiatric professional, and this isn't intended to be diagnostic. Rather, this is a framework around which you can explore your own feelings, and better understand your own needs.) 

Relationship Satisfaction Check-In
This is designed to assess our satisfaction per partnership, regardless of the size of our polycule.

Rate how true these statements feel, on a scale of 1 to 5:
(1 being Totally False, 5 being Totally True)

• I feel satisfied with this current dynamic.
• I feel clear on what I need from this partner.
• I feel clear on what this partner needs from me.
• I feel clear on what this partner wants to build with me, if anything.
• I know what setting boundaries means.
• It's easy to tell this person what I'm thinking.
• It's easy to tell this person what I want and need.
• I feel heard when I express myself.
• They never deny my lived experience (gaslight).
• They work to change harmful behavior, when they become aware of it.
• They freely speak up when something bothers them.
• I'm not always the person initiating emotional labor.
• We can fight without abusive tones or language.
• We can fight without manipulation or coercion. 
• We resolve fights in a satisfying way.
• I feel no resentments toward this partner.
• I don't feel good when they experience jealousy or fear.
• I don't feel relieved when I'm away from them.
• I don't feel fear that this person will hurt me.
• I don't feel fear that this person will leave me.

Those (20) statements will yield you a score of 20-100. 

20-30: Very Unsatisfied
31-50: Unsatisfied
51-60: Somewhat Satisfied
61-80: Satisfied
80-100: Very Satisfied

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How do you feel about this kind of exercise? Would you like me to continue workshopping my material in this informal way? I value your opinions and feedback!

With love,
Morgan