future memories (video and backstory) (Patreon)
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hello dear kg records family <3
i can't even tell you how much better i am feeling these days!! i am feeling so much joy and gratitude on a daily basis and sometimes i can't even believe it considering where i was a couple months ago. i'm finally getting back into the groove with things musically, too, which is great AND necessary, bc i just realized i better finish putting out my album before october rolls around and life becomes very very different! i've definitely got my work cut out for me these next few months :)
i am posting the below on my socials today but thought i would share it here as well for any of you trying to keep off things like instagram/fb/etc! (also, if that's you, high fives all around!)
much love and gratitude to you all. wowowow. xoxox
kina
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"future memories" post
in the early days of trying to start a family, i often let my mind wander and imagine what was to come—sitting with our baby in the sun, her amongst our family in the yard, jesse getting to be a dad. as the years went on, it became too painful to let these scenes in—letting in hope simultaneously let in a fear and pain so intense it was hard to stomach. so to protect my heart i built up strong walls between myself and that dream until i couldn’t even picture it anymore. sometimes i couldn’t even connect to wanting it, but something deep and quiet inside of me kept my compass pointed firmly in that direction.
"future memories" fell out of me one year ago during a time of incredible hope and incredible fear. we were weeks away from our first IVF embryo transfer. three and a half years of infertility building up to a moment where maybe maybe maybe this dream could be realized. for the first time in a long time, this song let me go there. the scenes snuck back into my consciousness and out of my mouth before i knew to stop them, and by the first chorus it all hit me and i broke down in tears. letting the hope back in was terrifying.
if you’ve followed along with our story, then you know that the transfer worked—we experienced a miracle pregnancy and for a short while we floated around in complete and utter bliss and gratitude and disbelief until we learned that we had lost it. the shock of such a high followed by such a low knocked us off our feet and we spent the next couple months grieving and letting go of our dream once again.
getting to release this song one year later, having mourned that loss, started over from scratch with IVF, wrestled with hope and fear some more and finally come to a sort of peace with the reality that this may never come to be, and now, being months away from welcoming our daughter into the world--it is surreal and incredible. this song was forged in a purely imaginary world, and now that world is finally merging with our actual lives. i couldn’t be more grateful. ♡