How to find what resonates with you (Patreon)

In today's world, we often come across the advice to "find what resonates" or to "take what resonates and leave what doesn't." These phrases are frequently heard from various sources, urging us to trust our instincts and make choices based on what feels right to us. But what exactly does it mean to resonate? And why is it important? Let's delve into the concept and explore its significance. First and foremost, it's essential to understand that each one of us is unique, with our own set of values, beliefs, and experiences. What resonates with one person may not necessarily resonate with another. Resonance, in this context, refers to a deep, intuitive understanding or alignment with a particular idea, concept, or belief.

Imagine you come across a piece of advice or information that doesn't make sense to you or leaves you with unanswered questions. It's like encountering a puzzle with missing pieces or a vague explanation that fails to address your concerns. In such situations, it is crucial not to force yourself to accept or adopt that perspective. Instead, it is advisable to acknowledge your confusion and seek further clarity, if you’re confused, we have literal science, psychology  and empirical evidence to get us all on the same page. Feel free to reread the article on the science behind all of this! Manifestation can seem magical because it is new to you, but it is the most normal phenomenon ever.  If something doesn't resonate with you, it means it doesn't align with your inner truth or understanding. It may feel foreign or incompatible with your existing knowledge and beliefs. Pushing yourself to accept it despite your reservations can lead to a state of doubt and uncertainty. Doubt can be healthy and can guide you towards finding your own path, (Not forcing it, being okay with acknowledging that it just doesn’t make any sense to you, and finding something else that does.) but if it becomes a constant companion, it can hinder your progress and decision-making abilities.

When we find ourselves in a loop of second-guessing, it's a sign that something isn't clicking, and we need to reassess our choices or beliefs, stop being a follower/being on autopilot. It's important to listen to that inner voice that tells us when things don't make sense or when we need more information. Embracing this doubt allows us to explore alternative perspectives, seek new knowledge, and eventually arrive at a more authentic understanding of ourselves, manifestation and  the world around us. This reminds me of the silly Law of assumption/Law of attraction debates, everyone is different, everyone has different rules and everyone has the right to choose their own way of doing things. For some people, methods do not make sense, for others, they do; both get results because both have their own rules that they personally resonate with. Remember, you are the creator of your own rules and beliefs. While it's valuable to consider different viewpoints and opinions, it is equally important to trust your own judgment. Don’t just do every new challenge ever because someone claims that it is the “key” to getting your desires, you are the key! Stop switching your playlist because so and so got results! You’re not seeing results because you are not consistent! Make your own decisions just like the people who got results did. Resonance acts as a compass, guiding you towards choices that align with your values and aspirations. By listening to what resonates with you, you empower yourself to make decisions that feel right and meaningful on a personal level.

Well, since we’ve established that you literally make the rules, you tell me! That’s not all though, the simplest way to put it would be; If you think it makes no sense, if you have questions and cannot understand what you’re getting yourself into, find holes in shaky explanations and are still seeking answers, do not force it! In short, if you’re still confused, it doesn’t resonate, it doesn’t make sense to you and you will inevitably acknowledge that lack of answers. That will eventually flourish into a deep feeling of doubt and uncertainty, and you will find yourself in a loop, second guessing yourself every step of the way.

So, you've probably spent hours scrolling through search results, reading countless success stories, and diving deep into different techniques and methods, all in search of the so-called "best" way to manifest your desires. It's understandable that you want to increase your chances of success and avoid failure. Actually, it's a bit silly, isn't it? I mean, we're talking about your reality here. Why would you rely on someone or something else to validate it?

I’m not planning on scolding you today, I get it. You're open to anything that seems like it could work, even if it seems a bit out there or leaves you scratching your head. You're not necessarily looking for something that resonates with you; you're just seeking reassurance from external sources. The funny thing is, the power to manifest is already within you. It's not about finding the "best" method; it's about tapping into your own inner “magic”, in other words, just doing what makes sense to you.

Instead of constantly seeking validation outside of yourself, it's time to shift your focus inward. You have an incredible well of potential naturally, like by default.Your reality isn't dictated by specific techniques or methods; it's shaped by your thoughts, beliefs, your upbringing, your point of view/perception of things and more! You don't need some fancy guidebook to tell you how to do it. Instead, trust in your own instincts and intuition, and that can sound a bit unclear too; so I advise you to reread my article on the science behind all of this so you understand how things unfold; then things should start to make a little bit more sense. So, let go of the need for external reassurance and start exploring your own inner landscape. I understand how intimidating sitting with your own thoughts can be, not only that, it can be  more than boring, which is also a normal reaction to have! Observe your thoughts, look around and see how they’re just been pushed out.

Often, we find ourselves caught in the web of overthinking and overanalyzing manifestation so much that it seems more difficult than it actually is. We become trapped in a cycle of constantly calculating and second-guessing our every move. It's exhausting and drains away the joy that should accompany our journey! You’re literally just telling yourself what you want to hear and experiencing it as a result! It's time to shatter the illusion that anything but yourself can stand in the way of your dreams. Yes, you heard it right. Nothing has the power to hinder your manifestations except your own self. You hold within you the incredible ability to manifest whatever you desire, and I mean whatever, as long as you maintain unwavering focus and unwavering consistency. Failure? Well, that's simply not an option.

Now, let's address the need to look within. It's easy to get caught up in the external world, searching for validation or answers. Trust yourself and  follow your own internal compass, you literally make your own rules. What makes sense to you may not align with conventional wisdom, and that's perfectly fine! People use the law of attraction, the law of assumption and more; and you can find success stories in all communities because what you think works, works! It does all come down to the scientific reasoning behind manifestation, but it includes the possibility of approaching manifestation however you desire! If you have no sense of self concept and only go ahead and take in whatever is external, you will continue to jump from one challenge to another, one playlist to another, one technique to another; and it is never going to end, it is going to be a clear pattern of searching and looking for what could finally bring you actual results, implying that you do not have your results yet; did it click?

Remember, you've got what it takes to manifest whatever you have in mind. Believe in yourself. You're the captain of your reality, and when you tap into your unique potential, the possibilities are endless. So, go out there and create the life you've always wanted.