⛤ November Q&A (Patreon)

Good morning! Truth is, I've written up three drafts of this intro already. The past few days haven't been inspiring and I ended up holding off until I had some amount of positive energy in me again. So here we go again.

Today will be a day filled with magical crafts as I find myself obsessing over the black kyanite broom-wand I came up with in yesterday's stream. I just love navigating the chaos of a new creation. My entire life is walking the fine line between stimulation and overwhelm - where both boredom and overload are equally incapacitating. I've worked my way up to a point where I can do more and handle more in a day, which makes setbacks and slow periods all the more painful. Now that I've just begun to keep up with life and my commitments, I don't want to backtrack and lose any more precious time. No, I am hooked on a drug called high functionality. Even though I don't think I should be giving myself a whole lot of credit for that. Yes, I can hold down a job, if you can call this a job, but only because I have total freedom and control over every aspect of it. Yes, I can perform most days, but only because I am in an environment that continues to meet my needs. So I don't think it's fair to say high functioning if I am only functioning in the most ideal circumstances possible. Still, the way I've been able to handle daily life without running into meltdowns... is a hell of a drug. I feel like queen of the world! My world. And I strive to use my power to create a queendom of beauty and harmony and enchantment. Something to do with a 6 life path I think. Anyway, I'm excited to pick up some holiday baking again soon! Our oven is due to be fixed tomorrow (one of the heating coils burnt out) so I get to continue the tradition I've started here of bringing delicious holiday treats to the people of my city. My auntie Lydia was the baker in our family - she makes the best cookies. I strive to be as good as her. But everyone here really loves my baked goods so I'm brainstorming what to put in my holiday boxes this year. Peach linzer cookies? Blackberry orange thumbprints? Traditional cinnamon stars? Maybe you'll give me some ideas. Right after I answer your questions!

Do you have any advice regarding what to do when being in the same room as someone you hate becomes impossible to avoid? Impossible to avoid to me sounds like an unforeseen encounter, because when you know someone you're trying to avoid is gonna be in the place you're going, you still have the option to nope out. Unless you're being bullied, the only thing I can recommend in that case if engage minimally and be busy. Maybe acknowledge them briefly if you think it's expected or the polite thing to do, but being busy will usually keep people from bothering you further. Make conversation with literally anyone else, read a book, walk with purpose or jump from task to task. They will be less likely to approach you if they don't see an opening. The most effective way to ignore someone in close proximity is to be very engaged in something else.

If you were a massage therapist what kind of relaxing and destressing surroundings would you use in your sessions? Smells and music are probably some of the most important aspects for creating a relaxing atmosphere. It's what I do in my own home. Play beautiful music, light relaxing scents and you're automatically entering a calmer state of mind. But since you asked what I in particular would do, that's only the beginning. I would have beautiful ambient lighting and only highlight certain aesthetic displays, like plants or flowers. Plants are extremely calming to be around so I would have at least a few of those. I would display crystals and minerals in the room that create a pure, calm space to destress in. Labradorite and smoky quartz and plenty of calcite. I would make sure everything is nice and clean as dust holds a lot of stale energy. A fountain or some kind of water display would be a nice addition - many people find gentle water sounds relaxing. I would be working with all senses and all elements so that when people walk in, they would feel like watching one of my videos - instantly stepping into a different reality.

Back when you rode horses did you find it to be therapeutic? No. Which is ironic because that's exactly what it was supposed to be. Animal therapy is a great alternative therapy for many people but like all other forms of therapy, it didn't stick for me. And that is entirely due to the fact that like all other therapies, it completely clashed with my schedule. I truly feel like all the benefits therapy was supposed to have were just cancelled out by the fact that I had to disrupt my sleep cycle in irregular intervals to attend them. I used to be heavily nocturnal, both to be able to work because my neighbors were an absolute menace and to spend as much time as possible with Jack. Going to bed at 6 and having to be up again by 9 twice a week  was quite hard on my body. And while it was ok for a while, I'm just really not about that equestrian lifestyle. Especially the horse flies. Wow they hurt. Fuck the horse flies.

Do you always dye your hair yourself or do you sometimes let your hairdresser do it? I wish. Dyeing my hair at home may be a pain in the ass because no matter how careful I am, I always end up black and blue and have to spend the next day bleaching the bathroom, but the hairdresser charges an arm and a leg just to apply the color even if you bring your own. I've just never had the spare $300 lying around for a hair appointment. If I did, I'd totally get my hair done and just not deal with the mess.

Do you do any kind of creative writing? Yes, I write poetry all the time. It's my happy place. Beautiful feelings and words swirling in my head like a melody you can't quite grasp but can't forget. And you keep reaching for it, reaching for it, inviting it to stay... A dear guest, you adore the company, 27 tabs open in the dictionary, searching for the right words to say what you feel, to immortalize it... The dear guest must soon leave. But the right words in the right order in the right rhythm in the right form will make him immortal, indeed... In the right mind, in the right ear and the right heart will continue on that which was not long for this world. In swirls of ink on a lined piece of paper, the final resting place of an old friend.

Does Jack code or have an interest in coding? No, he does not.

I hope I got all your questions and I hope it was worth the read. As always a new Q&A post will be available here soon. A little kitty cat is crying downstairs for me. I have to go put together a kitty cat fountain after a routine cleaning and then put together some cheeseburgers for dinner. Have a wonderful holiday season, whatever you celebrate. And if you don't, why not make it a second Halloween? What's better than two Halloweens? Personally, I extend spooky season all the way through Imbolc when all the skulls in my house get their due flower crowns complete with a less than patient "ready for it to be spring" attitude. But you do whatever makes you tolerate life!

Cheers