Blog: My History/How I Met My Mommy... and My Wife! (Patreon)

And they're different people!

I mentioned before how DailyDiapers is just a super-duper ABDL community to be a part of. Now I'm going to talk about two of the reasons why I'm so attached to it.

I met my wife in 2011. I had just finished cooking a pizza at midnight which is a totally normal thing to do when you're 22 (ignore the fact I'm writing this after doing the same thing tonight at 34...) and I sat down at my desk. As I often did at that time I logged into DailyDiapers chat room as I ate.

Now, as much as I love DailyDiapers I'm not going to pretend it's lways been free from drama. There has been PLENTY of that and maybe one day it'll be it's own post. That night I came into the room in the middle of an argument. I can't remember specifics but there was a user called "Infer" who was arguing aganist a couple of people about the validity of psychology. I know, pretty standard conversation for an ABDL chat room.

I came in on Infer's side defending psychology. It died down soon after and I was still eating when I received a private message. It was from Infer. DailyDiapers actually has a rule that says you're not allowed to PM another user without asking first (created to stop the women being harrased by horny men), if I had been a good citizen I would have reported them. Luckily, I'm a bad boy (it's true. Just ask my Mummy). 

They were thanking me for being on their side. It was a nothing message really... I certainly had no idea I was exchanging the first messages with the person who would be my wife!

We ended up talking until the sun came up at around 6am. I found out she was living and going to university in Portsmouth whilst I lived near London. I really can't remember a lot of what was talked about though I really, really wish I had the conversation saved somewhere. The one thing I DO remember us talking about was meeting up.

The next day we talked all night again. We didn't talk about much in terms of kinky or sexual stuff as far as I remember but we did both say we were interested in being friends, and perhaps being more than friends if the meet up went well. Seriously, I really pushed the idea of us becoming romantically involved to the point I'm surprised she kept talking to me. I really was a desperate virgin. Now I'm just desperate.

I learnt that Infer was also ABDL but more on the DL side. They had recently visited an adult nursery which had me very curious. They liked similar video games and television shows to me. Clearly it was a match made in heaven.

Over the next week or so we set a date and place for a quote-unquote date. It would be a hotel in London, we would meet up in Waterloo (The biggest station in England that connects London with the rest of the country), get lunch and once we were sure the other person wasn't a psychopath we would go on to the hotel.

I had learnt from the pretty disastrous visit to the Daddy (mentioned in the last post). I told my parents where I would be, I kept in touch and I made sure my phone was always nearby!

I was so, so nervous on the train to Waterloo. At literally every station I considered getting off the train and going home. When the train pulled up at Waterloo I stayed sat on the train for five minutes (it was the end of the line and after fifteen minutes it would start heading back the other way). Finally I got off the train, mostly because I didn't want to be the asshole that made someone travel two hours on a train just to stand them up.

Love at first sight is so cliche. So I'm glad to say it wasn't the case here. I was extremely awkward. We stopped at the Burger King for a quick lunch and then decided we would go o to the hotel. Perhaps what really broke the ice happened on the underground train to the hotel. So, at the time, I was basically incontinent (never diagnosed why but it was likely my anxiety. Again, my period of incontinence and second potty training could be its own post) and on the train we there was an advert for adult nappies and incontinence information. On that train full of serious people doing serious things I was losing my mind at the coincidence of that advert being right there!

We got to the hotel and checked in. We went up to the room and faced the next awkward thing. We were both in nappies and we both needed changes. We wanted to change each other but neither of us wanted to go first. We were both very inexperienced. We played rock-paper-scissors to decide who would change who first. If I remember right I think I won and chose to be changed first. They weren't award winning nappy changes by any means but there are few things that forge a bond between two people like changing each other's nappies. There would be less divorce in the world if partners changed each, I guarantee it!

We made small talk for a while and then went out for dinner at Wagamamas (A Japanese chain place). To show both how nervous I was and how sheltered I was I literally had a simplw plate of plain white rice...

Once we got back to the hotel we changed each other again and then talked more. This time the conversation went to more serious places as we talked about our pasts and things.

In the lead up to the date I had expressed a big interest in using my mouth to pleasure her genitals. I finally got my chance and I LOVED it! I think I did that for twice more before we left. When we left we both thought things had gone well and we would meet up again.

To fast forward through the next decade. I started visiting her at her place every week. I got a job and would spend my weekends in Portsmouth. I quit the job and moved down to Portsmouth full-time. We moved to a town nearby to Portsmouth and got married. We've been together for 12 years now and I love her as much now as I have at any other time. She's wonderful.

Now, my girlfriend/baby girl/mummy, well, it's a shorter story I think but no less meaningful to me.

Lyra was another user on DailyDiapers. To be frank, I was very depressed and as result I was an asshole to a lot of people. Lyra was one of the people I was an asshole to.

One day I was having a real mental health crisis and my wife was at work. I went in DailyDiapers chat and said I was in a bad place. Considering how much of an asshole I had been I was rather surprised when Lyra messaged me and offered to talk. After a little while she invited me into a Kik group of friends (now a Discord group but going stronger than ever!) We started talking more and more and became good friends.

When me and my wife got married I invited Lyra. It was difficult for her. She suffers from agoraphobia (fear of open spaces, lots of people, etc) and a wedding seemed designed to be particularly hard for her. I was so grateful that she braved the journey to come along. Bearing in mind she had never met ANYONE at the wedding in person, including myself and my wife, it was very brave of her to do.

Things went well. She was great. We stayed good friends for a while.

Me and my wife have never really been into being exclusive. We decided pretty early on that whilst we were very commited to each other we wouldn't stop each other from having fun outside the relationship as long as we kept each other in the loop. It was only a little while after the wedding that me and my wife discussed polyamory. We agreed it was something we were interested in trying out. Lyra and a fourth person were invited in and we've been a foursome ever since.

So Lyra became my girlfriend and has remained so. We are both switches so sometimes she is my Mummy and other times I'm her Daddy. It's fun!

We aspire to have all four of us living together one day but at the moment we have to settle for visits and holidays together. My relationship with Lyra is entirely based on ABDL stuff but it is a big part of it. Whereas my wife doesn't indulge her ABDL side all that much these days me and Lyra have lots of diaper fun and long may it continue!