Maximal Ep. 431 | Minimizing Narcissism (Video) (Patreon)

The Minimalists speak with Dr. Ramani Durvasula about recognizing narcissists; whether the term “narcissist” is overused; the roles of self-righteousness, complaining, and comparison in narcissism; how to walk away; how to work with a narcissistic co-parent and narcissistic grandparents; when self-care becomes narcissistic; the narcissism of small differences; the Dark Triad; whether narcissists can change; letting go of emotions; and much more.

Discussed in this episode:

How do you know someone is a narcissist, and is the term overused? (01:50)

How can I tell a narcissist that they’re the problem? (21:33)

How can I accept that a narcissistic co-parent has turned my child against me? (35:11)

Do narcissistic parents become narcissistic grandparents? (46:28)

What is the narcissism of small differences? (01:02:52)

When does self-care become narcissistic? (01:22:34)

How can I stop a pattern of being attracted to narcissists? (01:35:55)

How do you let go of your feelings if your emotions are tied to your ego? (01:44:53)

How can you mentally let go of an item you’re keeping just for when? (01:49:42)

How has minimalism helped this Patron manage her bipolar disorder? (01:54:26)

LINKS

Book: 15 Ways to Write Better

Book: It's Not You

Course: How to Write Better

Subscribe: The Minimalists' Newsletter

Tour: The Everything Tour

Website: Dr. Ramani

MAXIMS

Walking away can be the greatest act of kindness.

Acceptance materializes as we let go of the need to control the uncontrollables.

While the past can be a mirror of the future, the past does not have to equal the future.

Self-care turns into self-harm when one is self-absorbed in self-pity and suffering.

Forced change trips over itself at the starting line.

If your feelings are tied to your ego, untie them.

Letting go starts where the clinging ends.

A clean slate is a terrible thing to clutter.

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