Maximal Ep. 414 | Emotional Baggage (Patreon)

The Minimalists speak with Dr. Bradley Nelson about letting go of our idealized conceptions of others, defining our own self-worth, organizing emotions, dealing with overwhelm, making peace with painful feelings, getting past the wall of decluttering, and more.

Discussed in this episode:

How can I let go of the idealized mother figure I conceptualized to cope with my childhood trauma? (01:52)

How does The Body Code apply to physical pain? (14:00)

How can I feel valuable when chronic pain keeps me from completing day-to-day tasks? (34:09)

How can we hold on and keep going when we feel like letting go and giving up? (46:15)

How can I let others help me take care of things? (56:00)

How can we let go of the things that evoke painful emotions for us? (01:06:22)

How do I escape the pattern of thinking about others who have hurt me? (01:13:48)

How can I eliminate the emotional clutter that stops me from minimizing? (01:27:18)

Why does our culture seem to discourage stillness as a valid state of being? (01:32:29)

What kind of ad does Joshua think is maybe not so bad after all? (01:41:15)

How can I avoid impulse purchases? (01:54:10)

Why does Joshua homeschool his daughter? (01:58:01)

What do we like about this Patron’s simple dining room? (02:04:55)

LINKS

Added Value: Brian Eno, “Afraid of Things”

Added Value: The Paris Review

Book: The Body Code

Book: The Emotion Code

Podcast: Necessary Endings

Website: DiscoverHealing.com

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MAXIMS

We cannot love if we are not willing to let go.

Your problems don’t make you worthless; your problems point toward that which is worthwhile.

Organizing is the problem, not the solution: hiding clutter in boxes and bins only makes the problem worse.

Doing less better is better than doing more.

The moth is intrigued by the light of the flame, not the pain of the fire.

Decluttering things while clinging to emotions gives birth to emotional clutter.

You needn’t be flawless to be finished.

External clutter is our mirror for emotional clutter.

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