Maximal Ep. 393 | Psychological Clutter (Patreon)

The Minimalists speak with psychologist Dr. John Delony about psychological clutter, the anatomy of hope, enduring chronic physical pain, repairing broken trust, the feeling of an uncluttered mind, and much more!

Discussed in this episode:

What are your views regarding hope? (01:58)

What are the two kinds of hope? (04:35)

What do you consider the differences between wishing and hoping? (06:30)

How do you define “faith”? (09:48)

How do we best manage chronic pain and suffering? (32:03)

What do you think of unsolicited help? (43:06)

How do you address loved ones who don’t invite you to family gatherings? (44:44)

What are the two types of desires? (47:45)

How do we compassionately discuss contentious topics with loved ones when it involves them? (53:13)

Why are secrets so problematic? (55:52)

How do we unclutter our minds? (1:04:34)

How do we keep our personal and professional lives separated? (1:11:54)

Segment: Lightning Round (1:19:37)

Isn’t compromise an integral part of a romantic relationship? (1:20:53)

What are the three C’s of compromise? (1:23:40)

Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:28:42)

Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:32:29)

Segment: Talkaboutables (1:34:50)

Segment: Minimalist Home Tour (1:39:37)

Segment: More About Less (1:42:52)

What is the “test-taking mindset”? (1:50:12)

What is “E-Prime”? (1:50:48)

What is the “burden of self-righteousness”? (1:53:02)

Segment: Added Value (1:55:50)

LINKS

Added Value: “Be On Your Way”

Added Value: Sleep Mask

Book: Building a Non-Anxious Life

Book: Goodbye, Things

Book: Minimalist Rulebook

Book: The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control

Course: Simplify Everything

Essay: How to Make Tomorrow the Most Joyous Day

Instagram: Katherine Morgan Schafler

Podcast: Clint Ober

Podcast: Katherine Morgan Schafler

Resources: The Minimalists

Subscribe: The Minimalists

Watch: Less Is Now

Watch: The Dr. John Deloney Show

Website: Dr. John Deloney

Website: Earthing

MAXIMS

Hope is expectation dressed in a tuxedo.

Psychological clutter exists at the intersection of mental and emotional clutter.

Suffering is the inability to let go of pain.

Every new desire adds another bar to your prison cell.

An uncluttered mind is untethered from the past and the future.

How might your life be more with less?

Good and bad emotions exist only in the cluttered head of the beholder.

Love inspires the desire to support, not to sacrifice.

Compromise doesn’t require condescension.

Love does not require compromise, commitment, or covenant—it requires awareness.

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