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Maximal Ep. 379 | Unhealthy Family Relationships (Patreon)
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The Minimalists speak with therapist and relationship expert Nedra Tewwab about letting go of expectations for family members, setting boundaries with family and with people who thrive on drama, the difference between helping and loving, navigating difficult family discussions, and more!
Discussed in this episode:
How do we appropriately manage our expectations of loved ones, especially regarding help with parenting our children? (01:51)
How do we respectfully ask others to treat us as we want to be treated? (18:12)
How do we have open, honest, difficult conversations with loved ones? (22:37)
Can we still love someone while actively encouraging them to become a better person? (26:22)
How do we shift our focus from changing others to changing ourselves? (27:49)
What does love mean to you? (28:50)
What are the differences between helping, supporting, and enabling? (33:06)
How do we create boundaries others actually recognize and respect? (36:04)
How do we better exercise diplomacy in our daily interactions? (39:02)
Why do we place so much importance on validation from others? (41:41)
Why do we so strongly feel the need to be right? (42:14)
When is it appropriate to create distance to improve a relationship? (42:43)
How do we appropriately distribute and manage family obligations and responsibilities related to caregiving? (46:50)
What is the importance in learning to listen more? (49:27)
What is the “I Shouldn’t Have to Fallacy”? (50:48)
How do we move from disempowerment to empowerment in our relationships? (51:45)
When is it appropriate to simply end a dysfunctional relationship? (52:25)
What is “chronic gaslighting”? (55:45)
Segment: Lightning Round (59:02)
How do we respectfully and tactfully discuss inheritance with family members? (59:28)
What is problematic regarding an obsession with political correctness? (1:04:26)
Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:06:13)
How do I appropriately support loved ones who don’t recognize their hypocrisy in their treatment of others? (1:09:33)
When are labels useful? (1:10:54)
What is the difference between boundaries and bluffs? (1:11:52)
How do we encourage our parents to be more active grandparents with our children? (1:12:45)
Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:15:46)
Segment: Talkaboutables (1:19:03)
How are we unwittingly enslaving other people? (1:19:07)
What are the two ways we hide from the truth? (1:22:18)
How do we effectively practice self-improvement? (1:26:23)
What are the benefits of having a daily uniform? (1:26:56)
How do you address and manage criticism? (1:36:55)
Segment: T.K.’s Tweet of the Week (1:42:44)
Segment: Amass It or Trash It (1:46:40)
Segment: Sucky Ads (1:53:12)
Segment: Photo Friday Home Tour (1:58:30)
What is the “No New Books Rule”? (1:59:13)
How do I help an acquaintance acknowledge and address their antisocial behaviors? (2:10:38)
Segment: More About Less (2:13:51)
What does minimalism mean to you? (2:16:37)
Segment: Added Value (2:19:30)
LINKS
Added Value: “Oh Caroline”
Article: Marie Kondo’s Life Is Messier Now
Book: 15 Ways to Write Better
Book: Drama Free
Book: Everything That Remains
Book: Love People, Use Things
Book: Minimalist Rulebook
Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace
Course: How to Write Better
Event: Sunday Symposium
Podcast: Clinging to Books
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Twitter: Solé
Watch: I Wore the Same Shirt Every Day
Watch: Less Is Now
Watch: Minimalism
Watch: Minimalist Studio Tour
Website: Nedra Tewwab
MAXIMS
Expectations are a yardstick of future disappointments.
Your friends and family are not responsible for your upset.
It’s no one else’s responsibility to un-offend or understand you.
To convince someone is to unlove them because persuasion is a refusal to accept a person for who they are.
We get dragged by the relationships we cling to.
One’s love is not defined by their availability.
Clinging to a toxic relationship is the root cause of dysfunction.
The truth hurts, but it also heals.
Truth, lovingly conveyed, can never be disrespectful.
The truth may be disappointing, but it doesn't need to be disrespectful.
You can tell a disappointing truth without talking in a disrespectful tone.
The truth isn't always nice, but neither is being politically correct.
Don’t confuse loving someone with reading their mind. —Nedra Tawwad
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