Maximal Ep. 370 | Guilt (Video) (Patreon)

The Minimalists speak with Dr. Nicole LePera about letting go of guilt, motivation, ADHD, existential emptiness, people-pleasing, living with anxiety, healing with plant medicines, and more!

Discussed in this episode:

How do we manage the guilt we feel when we’re dependent on loved ones? (01:54)

Why did Dr. LePera write How to Meet Your Self? (15:52)

How can minimalism help us stay focused and motivated? (16:44)

How do you define “consumerism”? (18:40)

How do we appropriately manage our fear of our mortality? (26:31)

What is “dread data”? (28:03)

How do we ensure our altruism doesn’t interfere with our own well-being? (40:25)

How do you define “self-actualization”? (49:07)

How do you define anxiety, and how do you address it? (54:09)

Are plant medicines helpful for healing? (1:07:34)

How do we resist the temptation to compare our life journey to that of others? (1:17:54)

Segment: Lightning Round (1:24:15)

How do we determine when it’s appropriate to help others? (1:25:04)

Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:31:12)

How do we explain to our loved ones when the negatives far outweigh the positives at our job? (1:35:10)

What does happiness mean to you? (1:37:12)

How do we establish effective boundaries with one another? (1:40:17)

Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:42:18)

Segment: More About Less (1:44:30)

Segment: Talkaboutables (1:54:57)

Segment: T.K.’s Tweet of the Week (2:00:30)

What are “grievance entrepreneurs”? (2:13:14)

Segment: Amass It or Trash It (2:18:51)

Segment: Advertisements Suck (2:25:44)

Where is the line between influence and manipulation? (2:28:05)

How do we separate good products from their bad advertising? (2:31:04)

Segment: Photo Friday Home Tour (2:33:05)

What are the health benefits of cold plunges? (2:35:20)

How necessary are intimate, romantic relationships? (2:40:29)

Can the existence of backup plans be problematic? (2:44:11)

How do we deal with the anxiety that arises from traumatic events? (2:50:01)

Segment: Added Value (2:55:46)

LINKS

Added Value: Belt

Book: Awareness

Book: How to Do the Work

Book: How to Meet Your Self

Book: Love People, Use Things

Book: Minimalist Rulebook

Book: The Sedona Method

Essay: Scared to Death of Death

Essay: The Sound of Life

Health: Morozko Ice Bath

Instagram: Van Life

Listen: Daniel Martin Moore

Podcast: How to Love

Podcast: The Holistic Psychologist Podcast

Resources: The Minimalists

Subscribe: The Minimalists

TikTok: The Minimalists

Twitter: Dr. Nicole LePera

Watch: Less Is Now

Watch: Guided Wim Hoff Method Breathing

Watch: Wim Hoff with The Minimalists

Website: Dr. Nicole LePera

MAXIMS

Freedom is found in the acceptance of limitations.

Feeling good is pleasant, but it is not a virtue.

Your authentic self is not found in the expectations of others.

Emotional well-being is measured by our ability to let go.

There are no shortcuts—there are only direct routes.

To support someone is to accept them for who they are without trying to change, manipulate, or persuade them.

You can’t help someone who doesn’t desire help.

If you insist on being a hero for someone who doesn’t want to be saved, then you’re just a villain in disguise.

Your identity is not informed by the role you play for others. —Dr. Nicole LePera

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