"Emotional Intelligence" (Patreon)

Patreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss emotional intelligence, getting upset, kindness, self-awareness, curiosity, and they answer the following questions:

What does it mean to be emotionally intelligent? (01:07)

What are the two types of blame? (01:42)

What is the difference between power and freedom? (06:29)

What is “blaming, shaming, and naming”? (08:56)

Why does our culture often praise “rage”? (10:58)

How do we appropriately manage emotions? (11:31)

What is the primary source of our misery? (12:26)

How do I tactfully ask for complete clarification regarding an obligation or responsibility before accepting it? (19:48)

How do I disentangle myself from hustle culture? (22:29)

How do I slow my life down? (22:44)

How do I set new expectations with my employer after garnering a reputation for being reliable on all days at all hours? (24:26)

How do I determine the most appropriate direction for me after leaving my stressful career of thirty years? (30:02)

What is the difference between satisfaction and fulfillment? (33:23)

How do I prepare myself adequately to have uncomfortable conversations with people? (34:53)

How do I establish boundaries with others without being accused of being oversensitive? (38:19)

When you have high emotional intelligence, how do you ensure you don’t inadvertently use it for manipulation or come off as manipulative to others? (43:44)

At what point does the “hustle” become personally unsustainable? (48:34)

What is your opinion regarding the interjection, “Act your age”? (57:32)

LINKS

Added Value: How to Mew in 5 Steps

Article: The Toxicity of Hustle Culture

Book: Love People, Use Things

Essay: Nobody Has the Power to Upset You

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MAXIMS

“When we’re saying we’re busy, we’re saying our life is out of control.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

“We’re busy because we’re not focused on the important things.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

“When news is always breaking, it’s broken.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

“What others think, what others believe, what others expect—these are bars to a prison cell; to break free, you must realize that those bars are lining their cage, not yours—you can walk away at any point.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

“When you sacrifice your contentment, all that remains is discontentment.” —Ryan Nicodemus

“Whatever you’re doing right now is your priority.” —Joshua Fields Millburn

This Maximal episode corresponds with Minimal episode 319.