Ride or Die: Black Women and Intimate Partner Violence (Patreon)

In my life, I've encountered countless abused women and abusers of women. I have read countless stories about women who barely escaped with their lives, and horrible tragedies about women who never managed to. Even still, every time a story pops up on my timeline, I have a visceral reaction of anger, fear, and pain. I was just 14 when a classmate's mother** and brother were killed by her mother's ex-boyfriend. She was my age and was shot fleeing from the house with her baby sister in her arms. The ex-boyfriend had been gunning after the infant as well. It was such a surreal story to me then, at the tender age of 14-- and it still is now. That man's jealousy, resentment, and rage stripped a girl like me of her mother forever. On accident, of course, as he had been trying to kill her as well. This story, and many others, was on my mind when researching and writing this video. 

What was your first experience with domestic violence? If you're feeling up to sharing, please leave a comment.

If you believe you're in an abusive relationship. Please get help. I love you. 

**Read the story from 2009 here 

Sources

• "What happens in this house stays in this house" : Black women sound the alarm about domestic violence in the African American Community (Eric J. Shelton) 2/4/19
• Study Finds Black Women Murdered by Men Are Nearly Always Killed By Someone They Know, Most Commonly With a Gun (Violence Policy Center) 9/18/18
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