Home
Artists
Search Recent Random
Posts
Search DMs Popular Hash Lookup Tags Random
Importer
Import FAQ
Register
Partychan Telegram ThePornDude
Home Artists Posts Import Register

DISCUSSION - What has been the toughest part of communicating kinks or sexual preferences with your partner or someone else? (Patreon)

Published:
2021-07-12 22:45:01
Edited:
2021-07-13 00:14:10
Imported:
2022-10

Content

Hey girls,

Another topic that crossed my mind was what kink, fantasy or passion have you really wanted to explore with someone but had a hard time communicating it to them or asking them about it? 

X

Files

Comments

Anonymous

Besides initiating/ discussing in general to massive insecurity? Him being rough/ throwing me around/ degradation. He isn't built for it and he's tried but I can't communicate effectively exactly what I want

Bunnyluvsusagi

I need a sex therapist or a general therapist I can speak to before I move on with getting married to my partner. I was explaining to him that some of the sexual trauma I've experienced has "messed me up". For example, I'm afraid to tell him some of my sexual fantasies because I don't feel like being shamed. And how I asked him to abuse me sexually to get over my sexual trauma. But something like that.

Felicity Shields

I consider myself open and eager to explore I have a few hard limits but am adventurous. BUT I was raised by very very "Victorian" parents. I find it so damn hard to ask for what I want. Or to be open with lingerie or similar. Out here in the states I just hide behind "I'm British" but... 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anonymous

Well I'm kind of open with the fact that I'd be interested in bondage. I'm a switch but despite my chill personality, I see myself as slightly more dominant in bed. I've only had one sexual partner and I would've loved to use bondage on him...But we only ever went at it twice and it was in a one night period. Months later and the most that happened after was maybe a mini make out session and then a huge fight that ended with him cheating a month later. So I'm pretty insecure in my own performance at this point even though I was able to make him climax while the most I got was arousal.

Anonymous

My partner is a few years older than me, he’s also more sexually experienced than me and that has made communication about sexual desires lot easier, but I’m with Venalcake and Lisa👆🏻 it was difficult still to open up about wanting to be called babygirl and sweet girl and little one. It was a little shocking to him how completely under his control I want to be in sexual situations when I’m generally very nurturing and wanting to be the leader in day to day life.

Abby ✨

Getting over a traumatic experience is definitely the hardest part when communicating. You don’t know what you’re partner went through to be scared of sex, but it wa s enough to break them and hurt them. In order to get to having sex, discussing boundaries and talking about past experiences is key, because you don’t know what your partner has been through.

NutNutty

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now...we're still a very fresh couple, but because of my very first relationship, i wanted to do things differently this time around. My first boyfriend was emotionally abusive and we were together for 3 years. Communicating what i wanted sexually to him was difficult because when we did have sex, it was very bland and I tried telling him I was into bdsm but all he got out of that conversation was that I liked being choked, spanked, and degraded....nothing else. We had one more conversation about my kinks around a year later, but I dont think he was listening cuz he just kept doing the same things over and over. In hindsight, he was probably doing the same things over and over cuz it made him feel like he had control but he was the most difficult. My current boyfriend, however, is a completely better story.

Christina Paull

I've been slowly introducing new kinks to my husband but there are some I'm too afraid to bring up yet. Role playing is one I really want to try, like bring claimed and bred by a warrior or like a huntsman. Maybe like a viking or a Celt. It probably sounds weird but I really have a thing for all consuming claiming then loving aftercare. The dynamic of it is just so irresistible to me.

Dame

I'm unsure how to ask for it, or even approach the topic with partners. I want something kinky, confident, and fully controlled but the men that I have seen are all kind of set in their ways. It makes me not even want to ask. I tried once and he was so angry that what he was already doing wasn't enough he yelled at me about it. It makes me afraid to ever bring anything up with anyone

Just_call_me_V

So, I'm just throwing this out there. In the near post Covid future. Go to a bdsm meet and greet. They are far better than those kink websites. It's a great way to introduce yourself and said partner to that lifestyle. Men are more visual and may (possibly) get a better idea of what you want. These meet and greets also have workshops for roleplay 101 and/or live tutorials on using paddles/floggers, etc. Mind you they are NOT sex clubs. Some establishments have a strict policy for that and you might get banned if you break that rule. Just do your research. I've been to at least two in my life and had so much fun. Hope this helps.

bestkeptsecret
>>63664075

Sad to hear it ended badly. But you don't need to feel insecure at all, if you made him cum but he didn't do the same for you, that would be on him to improve his performance! Do you have any limits with tying a partner up or do you think you would be full on Dom if you got the opportunity?

bestkeptsecret
>>63664787

I hear you, I've never had any qualms with DDLG or referring to myself as Daddy around any girl I've been with and making her feel 'little'. Some men I think conjure images of 50 Shades or something they find a bit laughable when 'Daddy' gets thrown around but I'm hoping there is a good portion of men who embrace it too. If you're a man with ambition, will to succeed in life, business, etc. I think these terms come more naturally because you're used to wanting to be at the apex, men who don't experience that find it harder to take on DDLG IMO and personal observation. X

Anonymous
>>63664075

Well I'm not super into the idea of hurting someone, so I definitely wouldn't go that far unless my partner wanted something like that in the bedroom. I kind of feel I'm more of a tease dom than anything. But since I've never had that experience, I can't be 100% sure.

bestkeptsecret
>>63699236

That's awful, sorry to hear about that experience Dame, hoping you can find the right person you deserve, to bring that kinky and confident side to the table! If you have a partner you think has potential, maybe show them our audios, it might give them the push they need X

LittleOne

I'm married, and we've been Vanilla the entire time. After research, I've been wanting to try DDlg. I identify with it in many areas. He's down for the sex part, but not much else 😒 It's really disappointing bc I just want to be intimately dominated.

Karma

The fear of judgment.