My Experience with chastity (With Some Nudity) (Patreon)

 I see it far too often from those unfamiliar with the topic, or so turned off from kink that they have a knee jerk reaction: "OH MY GOD WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU WANT TO LOCK UP YOUR DICK!?". And I get it, but let's quickly talk about why I enjoy chastity. Not to make it so you go buy an amazing Holy Trainer V3 from Mr S (hows that for a plug), but because I think it's a topic that is so confined (hah) to this one perspective that is so outlandish in many cases.   First lets discuss my experience   Why do people enjoy it  How people do it wrong  Now what? 

My experiences

Now I will admit that I've been there in my assumptions that chastity wasn't for me because locking up your dick so you can't use it seems counter productive, but truly, it's a very intense experience in the best possible way if you let it be.

For me, it started when Kristofer and I did a photoshoot for the metal cages Mr S used to carry back in 2014. I felt slightly humiliated, and not in a good way when it tried it on. It felt silly, looked odd and wasn't my style, but in that experience I saw that Kristofer liked that kind of control, and through that lens it was slightly attractive. Control, in this way, makes chastity wonderful for the dom/sub dynamic and in giving over control of your device you show trust, but also that you're willing to go through a little pain to make your partner happy, which I found hot. In that light, it was emasculating, but powerful and loving so somewhat reluctantly I agreed with Kristofer to lock up for one week. Through this process, I learned it could be incredibly rewarding play: from constant positive reinforcement to teasing and dirty pics to finally, at the end of the week, Kristofer surprised me with a Pentatonix Concert:

Funny enough, it was almost a form of masochism to make him attend such an event. :D

The Journey 

One big thing about chastity is that it's not instant gratification all the time, part of the fun is building up pleasure and prolonging the experience in a fun and almost torturous sort of way. Orgasm denial is a huge part for some because it can build up and up and up and help someone experience mind blowing orgasms. For instance, before a kink shoot or porn scene I will lock up to build energy and make sure the scene is a really really enjoyable experience.

Further, this isn't the "Lord of the Rings", there isn't one chastity ring to rule them all, in fact there are SO MANY different devices it's hard to find the right one right away. Try different devices, go to sex shops that offer this experience, like Mr S, and try on different sized rings, makes and models and different ways of locking. 

My first device was clunky and made of metal, was too heavy and the locking mechanism was loud and bulbous. Fun for small scenes, but not for comfy long term play. So I tried silicone (pictured above middle) which pulled at my hair, got clamy and didn't sit well for my body. From there I tried plastics like CB600's and I felt myself getting closer (this was the device that warranted a Pentatonix Concert, pictured middle lower). AND FINALLY, I found the Holy Trainer Chastity Cage (featured in last weeks video and peaking out above right), which allowed for a changing of ring sizes and head sizes to ensure I got the perfect fit. Further, the made of the plastic felt good, for me and was a soft comfy fit. 

The struggle and how people get it wrong. 

The first night in chastity is always the worst. For guys who are still very sexually active and are used to boners in the morning, it's especially painful, expect a tough couple first nights especially your first time trying it. Like many things, it does get better with time, but that's not the only struggle that can impede your chastity adventure as there are many things people do wrong.

Finding the right size, for instance is sometimes the biggest hurdle. As mentioned above, try on every device possible before buying, it can get pricey while you shop around, so be smart and ask friends who have devices if they're willing to share. 

Sharing the kink with a partner. This can actually be a hurdle when not done properly. If you hand over a key but don't make it clear why you enjoy the chastity play, or make your expectations clear you might not enjoy the play with your partner. Are you doing this to be teased and treated inferior as some cucks do? Are you doing this to prolong orgasm for a fun and intense edging? Are you doing this because it just looks hot? Do you want to be fully controlled? Communication, like most things we discuss, is super important, especially in chastity as you're physically holding your body back and forcing it into a compromising position. 

Not taking the steps to reduce irritation! Regardless what device you're using, your body isn't made to be confined in this way so reducing any irritation is key. Apply and re-apply lube that works for your body, my recommendation will always be a silicone lube as it stays slick longest; just make sure it's good quality. Moisturize your body parts with lotion at the same time as the lube, especially if the lube drys your skin out. For lotion, coconut oil is an anti-inflammatory so find a lotion the has coconut oils in it if that makes sense for you. AND RE-APPLY! I have both a small bottle of lube and a small tube of lotion at my desk and by my bedside to ensure I can moisturize. 

Finally, listen to your body. If you're turning weird colors when not hard, or your body is in constant pain, you might need to change up the way you're playing, the device or possiby the lube/lotion combo.

And if all else fails, we have this super outdated but useful video you should check out: HERE 

As a heads up, this is a $5 tier reward that I'm sharing with all patrons this one time, to give an idea for the type of content you get at 5 and up. Consider looking at our other rewards if that's something you have the access to do. I really want to ramp up production of stuff here and Kris and I are in full "lets do this" mode. <3

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