Home
Artists
Search Recent Random
Posts
Search DMs Popular Hash Lookup Tags Random
Importer
Import FAQ
Register
Partychan Telegram Live Sex ThePornDude
Home Artists Posts Import Register

Brain What-icle? (Patreon)

Published:
2023-04-24 17:53:35
Imported:
2023-04

Content

Hello Brains!

You may or may not have noticed (because...what is time) that it's been a bit since we've last posted a Brain Chronicle updating you on perky perks, upcoming events and what's going on behind the scenes.

The answer is...BOOOOOOOK.

The book is INTERESTINGLY I ACCIDENTALLY DISCOVERED already available on presale on Amazon if you look it up, but it's kind of unofficial? BUT HERE IS WHAT WE KNOW!

--The book will be released January 2024 wooooo

--It will be called How to ADHD: An Insider's Guide to Working With Your Brain (Not Against It)

--The book will also be available on audiobook, released at the same time---and yes I will be reading it!

--It will be available internationally tooooo! Translated versions is a "we're not sure yet," but at least in the English I am writing it in.

--The book is FINISHED but I am still editing it and changing a lot as I realize stuff I left out or repeated too much, etc. yay ADHD


Our final final deadline is in 3 DAYS for anything I want to add, after that I'll just be going through my editor's edits on all the stuff I changed.

Meaning....

It's LAST CALL! For anything you'd like to make sure is included in the book.

If you have an ADHD story or quote to share, a strategy you'd like to see included, anything you want to know about ADHD and/or want to make sure others know so you can hand them a book and stop having to re-explain things to everyone....

Let me know in the comments below!!

I'm keeping it broad intentionally so you can basically infodump whatever you want, I love reading through a lot of stuff cause it often sparks ideas or helps me make connections I may have missed, but if you have any q's feel free to ask Harley :)

love, Jessica

Comments

Thornhenge

My #1 tip is: When there's something you want to be good at but you keep bouncing off of, like cleaning or getting to bed on time, Train Yourself to Value that thing. Sure, we say we want to live in a clean and organized house, but something else always seems more important than cleaning, in the moment. Sure, we know that getting to bed at a regular time would mean more mornings waking up refreshed and energized. We'd get more done every day if we slept better. But there always seems something more important when it's late and we can't go to bed right now. But it turns out valuing things is ALSO a habit and a skill... kind of. And it might be the missing piece standing between you and feeling well rested, or living in a clean house. And it might be because everyone told you that you should be doing things a non-ADHD-appropiate way. It might be you have learned helplessness around motivation for these things. Over the years, all the not-you-appropriate ways people tried to get you to clean just set you up to fail at cleaning, and eventually it was better to just care less. After a while, we start taking pride in our mess, or our chaotic schedules. It becomes part of our identity. So how do you fix your motivation around cleaning, or getting a good night's sleep? Using the same techniques we've learned elsewhere in working with our brains. Play to your strengths and don't accept the conventional wisdom as the path that works for you. If you're having a hard time getting started, pick a small goal you KNOW you can finish, and do that. Don't set a goal of cleaning the entire house. Maybe your goal is just cleaning off the bathroom counter. Do that one thing. If you get momentum, keep going. But whatever way it goes, ALLOW YOURSELF TO APPRECIATE THE RESULTS along the way and when it's done. Don't get down on yourself for how much more cleaning there is to do. Focus on the satisfaction that your bathroom counter is spotless, now. Oh, and you organized that shelf, too, before you stopped? Take a moment to feel pride in that, too. Allow yourself to hyperfocus. We're bursty workers. If you start cleaning, and the momentum is good, Go With It! Don't beat yourself up for all the other things you'd meant to get done that day. Appreciate how much more you get done in the next couple weeks, because you can actually find what you're looking for and you're not distracted by those dozen other projects you left out. They're all tidied away now. WHEN YOU NOTICE YOURSELF BEING MORE FOCUSED in the next couple weeks, ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL PRIDE for the cleaning sprint. Know that what it takes to get motivated will change over time. Like everything else, we get bored with systems of productivity. That applies to everything else. So you got your house clean for a season and then slid back into your old ways. Try something new to get started again. This is one more chance to get one more data point about how much more focused and goal-oriented you are, when you live in a clean house, compared to a messy one. You'll see one more time that the time you spent cleaning paid back. Summary: If there's something stereotypically ADHD you're bad at, maybe it's not just the thing itself. Maybe all the ways other people tried to nudge you into caring about it also didn't work for you. You'll be better about starting and following through with things if you truly, deeply value them. And like most other things with our brains, sometimes we have to learn to do that our own way, too. AND TAKE MOMENTS TO APPRECIATE THE RESULTS WHEN WE SUCCEED, DOING IT OUR OWN WAY.

Anonymous

If there is any space for this - it would be nice to see a mention of shame that is placed on us by family or others around us. I have a friend who used to be confident and accepting of their ADHD, but once they started spending a lot of time with certain family members who think ADHD is an excuse - they've since gotten themself off of meds and has been very triggered every time I started mentioning my newly diagnosed ADHD. Even with confidence in your own self, the (uninformed) opinions of those around us still have a profound impact.

Anonymous
>>107061155

Love this! I can really relate to this so much. I've ordered Dani Donovan's anti-planner and while I'm waiting for it to arrive I've had some pdfs of the pages. I have been amazed at how many great ideas there are that I honestly think could actually work for my adhd and autistic brain. And I can definitely second starting with a small goal. I'm often so perfectionist and all or nothing but then get so overwhelmed I don't do anything at all. Breaking tasks down into really small steps and focusing on what I have achieved and doing something, even if its something small, is huge for me 😀

Anonymous
>>107062306

Thank you for this too. I'm struggling with some negative attitudes from people, including some so-called professionals I have the misfortune of having to deal with. There are so many assumptions that it's just an excuse or we're not trying hard enough. I had my diagnosis (although not official official until I have the full separate adhd assessment) when I had my autism diagnosis finally last year when I was already in my 30's. The autism assessor was even more confident about the adhd diagnosis, and a lot of the people who have known me a while were also not surprised lol. Unfortunately despite still trying to manage this with no support and no adhd meds yet (not from choice just the joke of the NHS making me wait till my assessment eventually happens which I've already waited over 18 months for), as well as mental illness and physical disability and chronic illness, because I'm not currently able to work and currently have to claim out of work and disability benefits I'm treated as though I'm just not trying hard enough. But if I had the correct treatment and support I might actually be a step closer to returning to education/work. It's so frustrating. And personally, the ignorance and negative attitudes are even harder to deal with than my health stuff and managing being neurodivergent. Some kind of short lazy person's section to how to behave like decent people towards us, unfortunately, might actually be needed.

Anonymous

Hi Jess, thank you so much for this incredible community and for writing this book. Watching your vlogs has been such a relief a lot of the time, helping me to be more understanding of myself and my needs. I'm so excited to read/hear your book! It's also so inspiring knowing that it's still possible to achieve the things we are passionate about and the honesty and tips you've been able to share as you've gone through this process has also been reassuring too. OK so I have so many ideas bubbling around in my brain right now, I'll see if I can make some make sense lol. They're a mix of things I'd love advice on and things that I think might be helpful that I've discovered... 1. Mindfulness meditation has been so huge for me. I use the headspace app daily and it has been such a help for me in so many aspects of my life. 2. I'm not sure if this will fit anywhere but I'd love to know if there is any info available for adhd brains who are also trying to recover from trauma. I think my experience of trauma is exacerbated by the adhd, especially as I'm still not medicated (not my choice). 3. Does anyone else struggle to decide on and stick with a career/education focus? Obviously the actual working and studying has its own challenges, but more the choosing just one main focus and sticking with it. I'm not yet in a position to return to work/study but I do think about this a lot. I've previously worked and studied in a variety of areas and I think finding something I'm passionate about and can work around my needs would be huge but I struggle to have confidence in my decisions as my mind constantly changes and I have so many different interests I find it really hard to just pick one but they're too varied to combine. 4. How to cope with friendships, relationships, meeting new people. I love spending time with people I care about but don't have many friends as a lot can't deal with me long term, in part I think due to me being hyper and draining. But I've also had experiences of being hurt by others who spotted my vulnerability. I struggle to trust my judgement a lot of the time but can also be impulsive. Any advice on how to cope with meeting new people when you have anxiety and an adhd brain as well as sustaining friendships and relationships would be huge. 5. How to communicate with people you need to who aren't receptive to your needs. 6. How to be more aware of your body and needs and how to cope with different sensory needs etc. 7. How to make your home and life more adhd friendly (I've seen the vlog you did on this and it was really helpful but if you have anything else to add that would be great, including building a routine. 8. How to manage difficult feelings/emotions and communicate them to others in a constructive way. 9. Adhd and issues around eating (this has been a big issue for me in the past but is still something I could use more advice on). 10. Clothing for people with adhd. Am I the only person who gets really on edge and even distressed because material I'm wearing or a tag feels so bad? Sorry I know this is a long list and I'll probably remember so many things after I've posted this but I won't add anymore. Oh one last exception lol...how do you begin to grow in confidence and accept yourself for who you are, neurodivergent brain and all. I constantly feel so self conscious and I'm always apologising for myself, even when the people I'm apologising to have no problem. And I'm always overthinking every single interaction and doubting myself and assuming the worst. Therapy has helped me with some of this, although I'm waiting for more long term therapy again, but any tips would be appreciated. Anyway congratulations Jess on being so close to having your book out there and I really can't wait to read it. The extracts you've shared have been amazing so I can't wait to read it in full 😊

Jennifer Levenbook

I know this doesn't directly relate to your experience, but I have found it not to be common knowledge (though there is a nonprofit resource-center in my state trying to make it more common) so should it be able to be included, it would be doing a good public service: If dealing with an old school medication provider who thinks that pregnancy means no more meds and time to go back to untreated-brain, that is not the case. There are treatments other than accommodations available and there ought to be a maternal mental health specialist somewhere nearby the OB practice that can connect a pregnant ADHD brain with supports. In my case it meant breaking up with the person who had managed my unpregnant ADHD experience in order to move to a maternal mental health ADHD specialist, but it was so worth it. I'm glad I asked if it were possible and I'm glad my obstetrics nurse independently found it of great interest to research my question so put the time and effort in on her own time to find me an affirmative answer. Several other ADHD brain friends who fell pregnant when I did, did not receive such an option even when they asked and had to demand a referral to the place I was sent. So I just want to make sure that other brains aren't left behind due to wanted pregnancy! TLDR: Maternal mental health is not just for things like depression and anxiety, it also is for things like ADHD and other neurodevelopmental disorders.

Bryce Carlson

My teenager has been diagnosed with ADHD (tomorrow has an ASD screening) and we are working to expose her retired librarian godmother to your YouTube Channel and she will receive at least one copy of your book. You have been a godsend for me as I never know if I'm doing the correct thing in providing her with the tools that she needs to accomplish what she must (for school, etc.).

Anonymous

Congrats Jessica! I am keen to listen to the audiobook!

Christina Cl

Can't wait to read your book! I know this probaly can't be changed at this point, but is there any way the book could be released 1 month earlier so we could get it for Christmas? 😊 (only if it's ready of course, wouldn't want to add more pressure)

Anonymous

So excited for the book Jessica! Each time you've asked if people have anything to share, I've searched to the ends of my brain to try to find something that might be worth sharing, as I've been watching your videos for a few years, but only got my ADHD diagnosis recently. While I still can't find any practical advice in my head cause I'm still figuring out how to do all of that stuff myself, I really hope other people know how much you do for the ADHD community and I hope you know how much us brains all love and appreciate you for being an advocate for us.

Kira Masnica

How to contact your government leaders to plead for their attention to provide more resources for our kind - meds, treatment, diagnosis, etc.

Jabberwocky (Jan H. H.)

Hey Jess, this is awesome news. I'll fly through the audiobook. Not sure if you intend to translate to German. I'd be thrilled to do that support it or whatever you could imagine. I got stuck with my own book on Personal Growth Communities again and this might just be the right thing to do. My father studdied Germanistic (the German language) and I am multilingal. English being my best language after my mothertongue German. Let ne know what you think?

Jabberwocky (Jan H. H.)
>>107230214

Would have to check with my employer though, the European Patent Office. As their Talent Architect I have to check what extra work I can do. I am confident though, as they also let me go on stage to recite poetry.

Todd Holdsworth

Poop, too late. I just wanted to add that ADHD really feels to me like just a brain that's super-sensitive to the body (including brain), and that when the body's happier the brain is less affected. So if you're really connected to how your body feels, if that's not good you do something about it and you feel better. If you're not really connected to your body, you're not going to know to do anything about any discomfort it's feeling.