🤔 A Question for When You're on a Date 🤔 (Patreon)

"Fantastic question for when you're on a date, spending time with a new friend, etc:  Do you like who you are lately?"

It gives people the opportunity to speak honestly, reflect and hopefully show you a little of who they are and where they're at.

To clarify, I didn’t mean the first date, I meant in the dating process (somewhere in the 50 first date process :D). But then again, people move at different rates. Some people fall in love in two weeks, others in two years. We’re all different. But it is interesting that some people feel this is a heavy question. People seem very happy to discuss sex, intimacy and past relationships, but not where they are with themselves. And yes… my autism rears its head :D

It’s like “I’ll tell you all about what I like in bed, but I am not discussing where I am mentally and emotionally. Feck that!”

Again, just my personal take, but I’d much rather take the intimacy, sex and flirting REALLY slow than the ”real discussions”. To me, if you’re getting to know someone, it’s important to be honest and open about how you’re feeling, why you’re dating and what you’re working on personally. That’s the stuff that matters, not “what do you like in bed?”. But again, autism and wanting to know things and yeah :D