❤️ Please Don't Kill Yourself ❤️ [UPDATE] (Patreon)

I sometimes get messages from people who are in a lot of pain. I got one today from a young man. He told me he's planning on ending his life. I have sent him this respsone and I deeply, deeply hope that he gets help. 

I am sharing the response in the hopes of reaching out to others who are feeling similarly. I have removed the man's name to respect his identity. 

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UPDATE:

The young man has responded and he's going to access mental health support. Thank you to everyone who has left a message of support for him and others. It's a wonderful thing to see.

Let's look after ourselves and others, including us everyday internet strangers.

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Lovely, whatever's going on, I really, truly think you should reconsider. I know I don't know you. I don't know what you've gone through or what's going on for you right now, but, please, please don't kill yourself.

I've been there a few times myself. I don't know what's led you to this point, but I promise that you dying will not fix anything - it will only pass on the pain.

Suicide is our brain saying "I can't do this anymore. I can't see a way out. I can't anymore". I don't want to be a condescending fuck. I truly, truly don't, but you CAN do this. Look at all you've survived. Look at all those times you thought you couldn't take it anymore. And yet, you're here. For most people, suicide doesn't mean we want to die, we just want the pain to end.

I think maybe you reaching out, even to just an internet loser like me, might be a sign that you don't actually want to die. It could be your brain saying: “I don't really wanna die. I just don't know how to stop hurting."

If that is the case, please, please believe me when I say, you won't always be in pain. Life can be painful. Terrible things happen, people hurt us. It can be very lonely. But it can also be wonderful, hopeful, comforting and warm. I know that might seem impossible now, but I promise you it is more than realistic.

Please believe me that I'm a complete mess. I'm barely a grown up, I have all these issues around childhood and sex and intimacy, and yeah, sometimes it's really painful, but there is a point to me being here. You said that yourself. You said I helped you. Well, if you kill yourself, how do you think that will affect me? Do you think that I'll just go about not giving a shit? You've just told me that you're planning on killing yourself - that's not something I can just ignore. It will affect me.

Please, please stay for yourself. Stay for the random lady who says weird stuff into a mic. You have no idea how much better life can get. But it can only get better if you stay.

I'm gonna leave you the emergency numbers for all the different countries. I don't know if you have any family or friends you can talk to. If you do, please, please call them. They will help you. And I imagine that they'd be absolutely devastated to think of you being in such pain.

If talking to loved ones isn't an option, please use the emergency suicide hotlines. I have used them myself and they are amazing. I am here today because of some strangers on the other side of a telephone. Whoever it is, please let someone help you.

If you ever want to talk, I'm here too.

Please, please stay, lovely.

► International Suicide & Emergency Hotlines:

opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines