✨ 🍵 Spilling Tea 🍵 ✨ [The Concept of Virginity is Garbage] [Monthly Newsletter] [April 2021] (Patreon)

Today's topic: The Concept of Virginity is Garbage [In My Opinion]

So, in my humble opinion, virginity is just a trash concept.

I haven’t done extensive research, I can’t give you biblical readings, or its exact origin, (and in all honesty, I don’t think you guys come to me for that), but from what I can tell, virginity was created, like many things, for the purpose of exercising control over others. The operative word being created. Virginity, lest we forget, is a concept. A garbage concept, in my unsolicited opinion, but a concept nonetheless.

So, what do I have against virginity?

Well, for starters, I have a problem with men and women feeling that it’s a vital part of their identity. I have a problem with women being told to prize theirs, whilst men are pressured to lose it. I have a problem with the fact that people have literally killed themselves over not doing the “right thing” with it.

I have many problems with virginity. But most of all, I think the main thing that bothers me is that men and women torture themselves over something that’s not even fucking real. Virginity isn’t tangible, it’s not even chemical, it is quite literally some bullshit made up to uphold a societal ideal that has majortively become obsolete.

I am here to tell you, as a genuine “non-virgin”, that consensual sex changes absolutely nothing about you. I did not become disgraced, I have yet to burn in hell, and most importantly, I did not become a “real woman”. Sex is not an achievement. It is a personal choice, much like hobbies or how you spend your downtime. It is, at its core, an activity. It conveys so little about who you are, that to me, it’s laughable we even need to talk about it. But here we are in this ridiculous world talking about ridiculous things.

So, if that’s the case, why talk about it? Well, the world we live in might be ridiculous, the things we worry about might be absurd, but at the end of the day, we all have to navigate this bullshit, and it might be a little less lonely if others talk about how fucking ridiculous some of this shit is!

So, here I am, talking about the gross lie that is virginity. Because, in my opinion, it really is just that - a gross, greatly exaggerated lie.

And what’s the only thing stronger than a lie? Well, the truth. Or more importantly, YOUR truth!

So, through my posts, audios, and just general day-to-day interactions, I’m gonna speak my truth about virginity. And my truth is: it’s bullshit and you don’t need to live your life around an inflated, ridiculous lie. But that’s just me.

And absolutely, yes, there will be people who take it seriously, people who measure their worth and YOU against it, but you know what the amazing thing about concepts is? YOU get to choose which ones work for YOU, and which are actual garbage.

As always, I really appreciate that life isn't one size fits all. These are just my thoughts, I hope they can be of some use to you.

Best wishes,

Tea