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Private Social Media (Patreon)

Published:
2021-06-04 00:07:55
Imported:
2021-06

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Hey guys let's talk about something that's been on my mind for a while now.

If people are unaware I stepped away from my social media about a year ago and it's been great. I hated it. I hated my experience because I don't like "being in the public eye" no matter how small of an influence may be, anytime I got any sort of negative attacks it would just make me depressed and cry, and I hated my fucking timeline. Everytime I would open Twitter for the past idk how many years it would be mass shooting this, President Trump that, racism, ignorance, etc. etc. I hated having to consume that on the daily so I quit.

But I do like doing one thing. And if any of you have noticed my YouTube community posts, I like to just throw out random musings about K-Pop related stuff or when I'm high I think of some weird things and like to just shout it into the ether and see what people have to say.

But most of the time the YT community posts are just filled with "react to this" "where is that" "you didn't react to wendy so you must hate her, you said you loved red velvet in your psycho reaction but i guess you were just lying for views huh" (that last one pissed me off)

I like interacting and communicating with you guys and not just the comment leavers so I've been thinking about a private social media alternative for a while. My current idea is to make a private instagram account and only give the username to patrons, and patrons can submit follow requests and if they provide us their ig handle on patreon and we confirm they're not a stranger, we'll allow access!

This method is admittedly a bit convoluted but I also can't think of any other alternatives which is why I'm making this post! If you have any ideas, let me know. Facebook and Twitter are OFF the table. Not up for debate on those, but I am open to other alternatives. The only trouble I'm having is that I don't want to make people download another app and stick to something most people already have and not make them download some obscure or not as popular social media just for me; that's too much. 

And before ANYBODY even suggests ONLYFANS, I've genuinely considered this but to make OF private I have to put it behind a paywall and I don't want people to PAY to follow me, no matter how little the cost given that they already pay for content here.

Comments

twomillionmerits

i think the IG idea is a good one!!

Kriss

PD I totally get. I think your idea is not bad and is a good way to stay in touch. Maybe you can give it a shot and if it doesn't work out you just close it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ebony Coco

IG is a good idea.

Katerina

I’ve seen some artists having a private Instagram account before/exclusive to their Patrons so I think that’s a good idea. Would loveee to interact w/ u like I interactw w/ my RL friends on Instagram. Anything that suits ur table, PD! Much love xx

Nora Etkame

Hey PD. Hope you recovered well from JetLag! I think that’s a great idea! I love to see your community posts :) especially bc I often cant tag along on live streams bc of time difference. so I feel like this would let you share all your thoughts on the content you like, and the content you are reviewing .... I hope you’ll keep this idea!

Giu Bressani

I really love the IG idea! it might be a bit of work, but it's definitely the safest option out there

Anonymous

It makes sense. This way we know we can keep the toxic folk out and things should be relatively peaceful.

Brianna

The ig idea isnt bad, i totally get the frustration with comments like those. Its always bothered me that people just see you as a reaction machine and not a person. so, if you think this is what youd be comfortable with go for it!

Aurayaya

Why... not use patreon ? xD

Aya

i really like the IG idea!!

Anonymous

I think the ig thing could work honestly although that’s probably a lot of work on your part. I say try it out and see how it goes🤷🏾‍♀️

Juliana Ferrari

Love the IG idea so much! Your community posts are the best!

Nora Etkame
>>61188869

I think patreon is great for videos but it’s kinda hard to navigate :(

Kay Popped

I'm anti-Instagram because it's just picture Facebook, and I refuse to give Facebook any more information about me than they've mined through friends with it. That said, I'm not sure about alternatives (which is annoying in its own way). :/ Love the idea, though. Is there any way to use patreon differently, perhaps?

Fabien Da Silva

Yeah. That's good. As usual, the K-pop fraternity is toxic as hell.

Fatim

I like the idea of an Instagram account!

Emma Ko

I think a private IG is a super cool idea! Although it might be a little tiring to filter through and make sure all follow requests are Patrons; I do think it could be worth the hassle! Especially for your mental health :)

JustCakie

I am a gamer though so although discord is very standard to have to me I’m not if everyone else has it 😅

Réka O.

This is a great idea PD! I often read the comments on your YouTube community posts and your videos and a lot of them annoy/frustrate/disgust me so much. It was just today that I was really pissed off by someone demanding a reaction in all caps on a completely different group's reaction video. I wanted to start a fight but decided it's not worth it. I do enjoy the community here though so it'd be great to have another way to interact with you and other patrons 💜

HappyFoal28182

I like the idea of this but I feel terrible for the person that will have to sort through hundreds of instagram follow requests.

Nick

The Instagram idea can work. Although, you can also do a private or so-called “private” account on Twitter? I think it mostly works the same way and I’d much prefer Twitter than instagram.

Anonymous

I think the IG idea is the best option, is the safest and like you said, is what people use the most and we are familiar with it, so there wouldn’t be the necessity to download another app

R875d

Yeah I know what you mean I hate social media too ☹️.. instagram idea great 🤚... Even if it take long time but It is better than nothing

Em

I mostly use Twitter and Tiktok. I'm pretty sure you can do a private tiktok. But I imagine that uses more spoons to post on there then on IG. I just really only look at IG stories.

Marcela Pereira

Hey PD! I love the idea! I always see the yt community posts and those people always drive me mad 😑 I've curated my Twitter timeline SO SO SO many times so it's comfortable for that I understand why you don't wanna be there. I'd love to interact in another platform :)

KpopPrince

Yeeeaaah OnlyFans 🎉🎉

Hellomisa

tumblr? its dead but that may be to an advantage here. you can password lock blogs so you can just throw the password up here and not have to verify people ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

SanjA1800

I mean I only downloaded Patreon app to subscribe to you so I'm not against downloading another app just to follow your social media posts. Insta or discord seems like the better options. Or just Patreon community posts like this?

formoftherapy
>>61188865

I'm super logical so I actually completely understand those people and don't have any bad feelings towards requesting stuff, but it is obnoxious when requesting it on something where I'm asking a direct question. Only people who I genuinelyyyy dislike is "oh you didn't react to this so you hate "x" artist don't you?"

Joel R

https://blog.fancentro.com/en/2021/03/05/onlyfans-alternatives-7-new-platforms-you-should-know-about-in-2021/ Fancentro seems to be decent with alot of features, and it has private dm'ing. Something to look into, but yeah, maybe a private IG with a "passcode" or something.

Sarah Batt

i like the idea. i’m down pd✌️

Diana

Like the IG idea. Haven't used it for a LONG while but I'm slowly getting back into it, so I would love to read your random commentary there :p Just a quick 'logistics-related' question about that. Would you create a post here for us to give you our handles? Or how would that work

rockthekazb0t

If there was only an easy way to connect Patreon subscribers to the YT subscription/membership tier system (without paying extra on top), so you can make community posts that are locked to those users in the tier and not public. That would be ideal, I think.

formoftherapy
>>61188925

I don't like IG either for different reasons and I've weirdly never cared about the mining; I know that's a big deal to people but I've always just been "shrug I got nothing to hide". As for Patreon, no, technically it's meant to be used exactly like a private social media except I post a TON of videos so posts would get buried.

formoftherapy
>>61188975

My rationale is, in the beginning it'll be like a hundred requests this ONE time and then going forward it'll be like one or two at a time whenever people join.

Jude G

I saw someone say Discord? You have it, I will join instantly. I've been using it for Livestreams and my friends from school and old jobs for this pandemic. My several friends that went to twitter to Instagram because of Twitter's toxic ways. I am not really into Instagram (because it can be Facebook lite at times, since Zuckerberg took it) but I will be game for it.

shudoon01

I don’t know if you’ve thought of this but why not on Patreon itself? through the stories you sometime post, I’m not sure if that’s inconvenient for yourself but since on Instagram a post/story would be made to share then it’s not that different from Patreon but to differentiate from your posts only post on the story bit and we would all have access to it but I’m not sure if we can interact as easily through the story feature that Patreon has

formoftherapy
>>61189028

No FB or Twitter. It's in the post. In fact I'm sure MOST people would prefer Twitter but I'm not using Twitter and actively am against it for my own use.

bonepeonies

Like someone else mentioned, I’m not a fan of IG for privacy reasons and have quit using it. However, discord wouldn’t work for me since the app only lets you sign into one account at a time :/ So if a general consensus is to use IG, that’s cool! I’ll just have to pass. I really only use discord and Dreamwidth these days. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Ebony Nicole Schuetz Derrickson

Is there a way you could filter out the ones who make requests when you make those posts on YT? Btw, I love your random posts on YT! It’s like “shower thoughts” and a good conversation starter. Keep doing what you’re doing. You are AMAZING and LOVED, PD!

Moonown

Discord maybe?

aicrylic (aimee)

i know you're leaning towards IG but i'd be more down for a patreon only discord server--- just a suggestion. it'd be nice to also have a place for discussion with other patrons that can be random and not necessarily tied to videos and muddled by the awful patreon mobile app and general clunkiness of comment sections

rockthekazb0t
>>61189947

Just a note, there IS a FOT discord server, that was originally Patrons-only (now it's semi public). The problem with discord is that it's much more of a chatting interface than the kind of social media interface that I think PD is looking for. Here is the link, BTW; https://discord.gg/JZVVY6ja

ShyHoshi

I agree with you. I wouldn't be on Twitter if it weren't for Kpop. It's the quickest way for me to get information. I try to limit what I allow on my timeline. I understand. I can see IG working the easiest probably. It's up to you in the end. What ever makes you happy and comfortable. I'm down. 👍😊

Anonymous

I'm totally fine with IG, I have an IG stan account hahah

Shayla Lackey

I’m down for the IG account baybeeeeeee 🥳

CRAYON weiwen

Private IG sound good, recently been actively looking at IG as IZ*ONE 11 members been active on it T-T

Kayla LaRae

Very good idea PD.

WiseSmellyLegs

What about discord? But in the way, you would interact there more often

Anonymous

Hey PD, I like the idea of using a private IG. There may be a few bugs at the beginning, but once we work through them, I think it would be great.

leen

i pretty much only use ig so this works for me ^^

Krista

I think that's a great idea!

Samm Kayy

I think that's perfect !

Christina M Villa

The only thing I hate about Instagram, and why I rarely use it, is the feed. I need things to be linear and to update. I always see the same posts when I go in and it can be from 2 days ago. Drives me crazy.

Anonymous
>>61191598

I second this, I think a discord server would be awesome and more interactive as well as being easier to regulate who can join and stuff. I’m all for the Instagram idea tho if that’s what your going with :)

Jess

Yes! That sounds cool

zaphyre

Discord is a lot more practical I believe to have conversations with other people compared to Instagram

Brooklyn

I think an insta would be a fun idea! Either that or lots of people have discord servers as well for that purpose

theriacs

down for the IG idea. it's a lot easier to control when and who to respond to, as well as managing DMs. i hope we get to see more of your work there in clips or pics as well. i've watched your short films on youtube as well and i thought they were shot beautifully. from a learner's perspective, it's easy to digest content and watch visual examples of certain cuts or techniques used in MVs or film if you wanted to discuss them

Anonymous
>>61195505

I think discord too, for things like this discord is amazing and so much more organized.

Aleia

I think discord is a much better alternative to insta purely because its not social media based, its just a community room. there's no outward influences, its private and something you can easily give access to those who are patrons. It's free and easy to download. You can stream, play music, have live conversations with people, like a big chatroom, rather than insta where you log in and see posts from everyone else. You can control who has what permissions, who can see a post, who is allowed to post, etc. Discord can be a much more secluded form of social media, so I highly recommend that.

Plumboy

I am leaning more towards discord to as others have said, your post/chat can be highlighted and we/Patreon can set notifications to see just your “post”, I think discord is a lot more controllable since if your IG gets out it could get spammed.

Dia

I think discord would make sense for your purposes. I’m not super familiar with how to set it up in a way that’s Patreon exclusive, but I know some Youtubers have it that way. Plus you can set up different threads for different topics

rockthekazb0t

Just an FYI - the official FOTcord already does exists(has for over a year), though PD doesn't really appear there anymore. It's become a safe space for a bunch of Groupys to talk kpop and other things. It's very girl group leaning at present, based on the active users - but not at all unwelcoming to BG stans! Everyone is of course welcome! Invite link here: https://discord.gg/JZVVY6ja

Amanda Araujo

i really like the ig idea and its something most people have, since some ppl also mentioned discord i think is another good idea too i would be down for any

Viviena

What about Discord? You can just post the link and don't need to filter through anything!

Deniz Ak

I like the insta idea actually but discord might another option. If you went with dc, you could create seperate channels where people can suggest things for you to react and other channels for whatever you like so it doesnt get mixed up.

B

Discord has native support with Patreon so that’s an option but I dont think it lends itself well to longer text + image posts (which you could on instagram). Instagram might be a better fit and lends itself better on mobile imo

Deibid

IG seems like good idea if you'

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Opinionated Matt

Yeah, the vast majority of us does have Instagram. I am a bit worried that the private account might be easily spoiled and assaulted by "stans". My counter offer might have been a Discord server because it's something that can create a fun community and it can remain private and protected.

Pola

I think the IG idea is a good one. I am really interested on some of your pictures there because most of the time I really like your aesthetics 😁 I know some of the people recommended discord but probably I am the only one who doesn’t really like this app. But whatever app/social media you will choose, I’m okay with it .

Anonymous

IG is fine with me. I would enjoy your IG stories/your post. Discord is... IDK... I don't want a notification every time someone else text something. It's distracting/annoying and I would end up mute it eventually. Unless there's way around that. I only want your content, couldn't care less about interact with other ppl. if that make sense?

Eme123!

Great, I think IG is a good a idea PD :)

flowerbit

IG definitely seems like the easiest and best idea for this :) I’d go with that

Otto

If you go instagram. I’ll create one for it. I don’t use Instagram and Facebook. But for this reason I will 😁

Izak

Private IG is definitely a good idea, I feel like discord as people are suggesting is a bit complicated for me and not all that user friendly 😭 but it's up to you

Anonymous

I think this sounds like a good idea! Discord is also fun, but its a very different format from ig

Neeeenzzzz

Do you PD :)

h.

this sounds super nice ! it’s definitely a good idea!

Marcia

Omg i hate these "REACT TO... 🔥" comments. It's just spam and so annoying. I'm down for IG or smth like that btw.

Misha

So many people here talking about Discord, but Form of Therapy literally already has a Discord guys? Come on in lol I think for what you want Insta might be the best option as well but the more patreons you get the more terrible it will be to keep up with

Pilot Key

I completely understand your trouble. Instagram really seems like a best option. Won't be there, tho, cause I hate it, and deleted the app a while ago.

Benjamin

I like the IG idea

Loretta

Do you PD, I’ll follow you for sure!!

Giulia Arnone

I like IG and Discord tbh! Do what you feel is the best for you ✨

✦ t i m t i c h u u

I love your random posts about stuff. The IG idea sounds perfect!

Emma

sorry I’m so late in getting to this post PD, life is hectic! I think Instagram is a great idea - I don’t use the app very frequently but I think it sounds like one of the best options for the social approach you’re aiming for, and I’d be happy to hear more and communicate with you!! I totally understand the Twitter hesitance; Twitter in general, but specifically KPop Twitter, is a hard place to roam and be yourself in without hate and criticism for every little thing!

Micado

I would suggest Tumblr just because that way you can do posts without pictures attached, but even I stopped using it TT. I do like the idea of a private social media, though! I liked seeing your community posts in my YT timeline.