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How do We Deal w/ Negative Comments, Dislikes, etc.?! (Patreon)

Published:
2019-10-26 18:47:00
Imported:
2021-04

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Thanks for your question, GENE GETER!!!

You guys have any tried-and-trues you'd like to share?  Leave 'em in that comment box, people!!!

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Toasted Toad

I listen/used to listen to a podcast where the broadcasters had the most amazingly thin skins. Every week (actually, they still do this) they read out their 5 star reviews from i-tunes, which I find unnecessarily self-congratulatory. But I remember also one time they got a one star review which they felt also necessary to read out and pick apart sentence by sentence in an incredibly sarcastic tone so as to demonstrate how wrong it was and how little they regarded it. TBH, that just made it very clear how much it had indeed got to them. And in fact the comment made some fair points (as well as others not so fair). They would have done much better to leave it alone. My biggest mistake over the years is to engage in You Tube comment / Twitter Warz. First rule of Twitter Warz - You NEVER change anybody's mind. It is not a debate. They only want to state their own opinions again and again to have the last word. Second rule of Twitter Warz - think about why you care about this person's opinion anyway? Who are they? Do they form any part of your life? Are you talking to some rando neo-Nazi, a reasonably sensible adult, or a 10 year old child? YT, Twitter etc are strange worlds. If I dislike a Reactor enough to be posting rude comments at them, I would simply not be watching that Reactor. If what's meant to be just feedback comes across as rude, then oops!

Katie Anne

I can imagine hearing your DeNiro impression in the thumbnail pose and it’s phenomenal lol - It’s best to never give your energy to those who don’t deserve it. Lately I practice: Never let anyone rent space in your head; if they don’t pay, they don’t stay. Naturally from me, I only have positive things to share because I’m a loyal and happy fan :)

thereelrejects (edited)

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2021-07-15 05:01:34 Yipe... that does sound a bit.. I'm not sure what the word is, but I'd feel a bit uncomfortable, personally, making our reviews their own segment.. I guess it's maybe cool for the person who wrote the review, but under a lot of circumstances, I think I'd just wanna thank the people who took the time & move on haha. And then, yeah, to move onto a 1 star and rip it apart after that does seem perhaps a touch insecure.. although, I haven't heard them so it's hard for me to say. And obviously it's a tricky human thing being open to constructive criticism amid not-so-constructive criticism, but.. if you're reading it out & overtly mocking, it does seem like you'd have been "gotten to" by that point. As for Twitter & Comment Warz, I feeeeeel ya. On occasion I have found that you can get through to people and, at very least, sometimes get them to recant a little and respond to you like a person, but.. largely it does feel like throwing time & energy down a hole. I think there's also a personal element we're not all that good at identifying & mitigating, which is the satisfaction factor. At least in my experience, it feels like people's desire to dunk on whoever they're arguing with & vice versa only really serves to get everybody more riled-up and further away from actually getting anywhere with the actual topic at-hand, but I digress. As for your final sentiment, I really wish it wasn't so hard for other people to adopt this way of thinking lol. If ya dislike something and it's not overtly immoral/harming people... just go put that time into the stuff you do like! What's so hard about that? 😅
2019-10-28 22:47:43 Yipe... that does sound a bit.. I'm not sure what the word is, but I'd feel a bit uncomfortable, personally, making our reviews their own segment.. I guess it's maybe cool for the person who wrote the review, but under a lot of circumstances, I think I'd just wanna thank the people who took the time & move on haha. And then, yeah, to move onto a 1 star and rip it apart after that does seem perhaps a touch insecure.. although, I haven't heard them so it's hard for me to say. And obviously it's a tricky human thing being open to constructive criticism amid not-so-constructive criticism, but.. if you're reading it out & overtly mocking, it does seem like you'd have been "gotten to" by that point. As for Twitter & Comment Warz, I feeeeeel ya. On occasion I have found that you can get through to people and, at very least, sometimes get them to recant a little and respond to you like a person, but.. largely it does feel like throwing time & energy down a hole. I think there's also a personal element we're not all that good at identifying & mitigating, which is the satisfaction factor. At least in my experience, it feels like people's desire to dunk on whoever they're arguing with & vice versa only really serves to get everybody more riled-up and further away from actually getting anywhere with the actual topic at-hand, but I digress. As for your final sentiment, I really wish it wasn't so hard for other people to adopt this way of thinking lol. If ya dislike something and it's not overtly immoral/harming people... just go put that time into the stuff you do like! What's so hard about that? 😅
>>28300523

Yipe... that does sound a bit.. I'm not sure what the word is, but I'd feel a bit uncomfortable, personally, making our reviews their own segment.. I guess it's maybe cool for the person who wrote the review, but under a lot of circumstances, I think I'd just wanna thank the people who took the time & move on haha. And then, yeah, to move onto a 1 star and rip it apart after that does seem perhaps a touch insecure.. although, I haven't heard them so it's hard for me to say. And obviously it's a tricky human thing being open to constructive criticism amid not-so-constructive criticism, but.. if you're reading it out & overtly mocking, it does seem like you'd have been "gotten to" by that point. As for Twitter & Comment Warz, I feeeeeel ya. On occasion I have found that you can get through to people and, at very least, sometimes get them to recant a little and respond to you like a person, but.. largely it does feel like throwing time & energy down a hole. I think there's also a personal element we're not all that good at identifying & mitigating, which is the satisfaction factor. At least in my experience, it feels like people's desire to dunk on whoever they're arguing with & vice versa only really serves to get everybody more riled-up and further away from actually getting anywhere with the actual topic at-hand, but I digress. As for your final sentiment, I really wish it wasn't so hard for other people to adopt this way of thinking lol. If ya dislike something and it's not overtly immoral/harming people... just go put that time into the stuff you do like! What's so hard about that? 😅

Toasted Toad
>>28300523

I mean, I can see why these guys reacted to the one star like that - it can't be pleasant having less than complimentary things said about you, whether true or not - but especially given their habit of revelling publicly in good reviews, it left a bit of a bad taste to me, especially as they weren't able to take it with even a tiny bit of self-deprecating humour.

thereelrejects
>>28340078

Hahaha I like it! Now just assume Greg read off the question in that voice 😝but in seriousness, we really appreciate the love, dear!! And of course, if ever you've got a concern or complaint or anything, we're happy to field it. That said, though, I like that analogy of people renting space in your head. I definitely do that more than I'd like to 😅😓but especially as it pertains to situations like these, I'm gonna do my best to remember it :)