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Impact, Intention, and Responsibility (Patreon)

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2020-05-16 14:01:01
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2024-02

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Bob takes the mic and talks about impact, intention, and responsibility.


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This content is for educational and informational purposes only. Although Kirk Honda is a licensed marriage and family therapist, this content is not a replacement for proper mental health treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health needs.

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Anonymous

This article from Psychology Today reminded me of Bob's episode.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/romance-redux/201211/five-ways-overcome-feelings-neediness

Anonymous

Great episode, Bob! You are wonderful! I love talking about intention and impact with my clients and in my relationships. I think a lot about how I think trauma informed approaches and EFT would focus on the impact first. Like a child who wakes up scared from a nightmare... there was no intention of being scared, but the fear is there and needs soothing. We can self soothe as we learn more, but in a couple learning ways to co-soothe seems helpful. Also I love thinking of the idea of responsibility as “response ability”... literally what is your ability to respond? And when we are triggered... our ability to respond is limited and we need practice reminding ourselves it was just a car backfiring... and we need our partner to know what our triggers are and that there is fear in the moment to be tended to. I feel like once we are all soothed. Then, if needed, there can be some reassurance that no one meant to cause harm. I love this stuff. I really love the asking for help part! I also with couples who lean towards codependency, I try to help the person who is asking for help to remember they are asking for help... not for the other person to become responsible for their feelings. I use RAIN a lot. RECOGNIZE the feeling. ALLOW your self to sit with it for a bit, INVESTIGATE your unmet need (for reassurance that you are loved, for example), then NURTURE the need... I try to nurture my need, like reminding myself of all the other signs that I am loved, but also nurture it by asking your partner for reassurance.