Advice on Relationships (Patreon)

Hello my patreon peeps! For this week's writing post, I wanted to go into depth on a topic that has been relevant to my life today. Earlier, I was doing some herbalism work & wanted to listen to a podcast that was science based while I worked. I listen to the "Ologies" podcast on occasion & I found an episode she did on marriage with someone who basically studies the science behind relationships/marriage. I decided to give it a listen & I learned a lot, so I'll link it below if you're interested. Even if you're not in a relationship at all, I think it's beneficial to listen to as many of us at least think about marriage or know someone who is married to relate that info to (i.e. parents, etc.) Right after I listened to that episode, I came on here to do some computer work & went to my YouTube suggested page to put something on in the background. Lo & behold, the algorithm pushed a video my queen Shan Boodram recently uploaded sharing marriage advice with her husband Jared. I always enjoy hearing their opinions because I relate to them a lot honestly. I'll link their video down below too! My biggest takeaway from my listening today that both resources touched on is that as you get further into a long-term relationship, you realize there are things about people that may just always bother you, but they don't always need to be voiced. These aren't necessarily what people call your "non-negotiables" like beliefs about topics you really care about, but they're little things like the fact that they hate a certain food you really like, etc. BOTH resources talked a lot about healthy communication (something I also harp on a lot when giving relationship advice) & BOTH of them also talked about withholding certain comments that pertain to these annoyances. Overall, they're basically saying you don't need to nag people on things that make them them EVEN IF you dislike it. Some things just exist in people that will never change, but at the same time, people also change A LOT in long-term relationships. The person I am now at 24 is drastically different than when I started making videos at age 14, & I will be a very different person in my marriage at 54 I assume as well! The key to healthy & sustained relationships is being along for that ride & communicating the whole way if you have changed your mind about big things that your partner should know about. Anyways! No one asked for this advice. I'm just putting it here because it's literally all I've been hearing about today & I really enjoy the topic. Comment your opinions below OR! If you're in a long-term relationship, comment the best piece of advice you have for sustaining that relationship. Best of luck to you homies, lovers, & friends (yes I stole that endearing term from Shan & Jared) Links below!

Ologies podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WPp8ALWuczLb2GeBdcGe2?si=nWzvxSwyS_SRZ5PQ8o_ChQ&dl_branch=1

Shan & Jared's video: https://youtu.be/vmzWYjJ30zs