[BONUS EPISODE] AFTER DARK: Are you a soft woman? (Patreon)

Lately I’ve been reflecting on the things about myself that maybe need adjusting or deserve deep reflection. One of those things is my strength. I’ve often heard “how strong“ I am and it’s become part of my identity. My “strength” has come from pain and disappointment but also, I think, is just innately part of who I am. I watched my mother and my grandmother be “strong” and very independent. Not need a man for anything. There is so much beauty in that, especially in a patriarchal society, however there is also a hardness that often coincides with that strength. Having to figure everything out all the time often forms this expectation that nobody can do it better than you can, or makes it hard for you to receive help and support. I’m realizing men desire and need to feel like they can help. That they can “save” (for lack of a better word) you from whatever you need saving from. That the divine feminine wasn’t meant to be hard and strong in the ways that modern society has painted her.

Anyway listen to this mini episode (still don’t know what to call these) and let me know what you think.

Below is a link to our episode I reference with Daphne Waynes  “Return of the Soft Woman”. Y’all did not like this episode but upon deeper reflection I understand what she means more today.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-moms-bad-choices/id1356670998?i=1000442111669