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Having good things going on is nerve-wrecking. I've tried to ask my therapist how to handle it, but she has only suggested that instead of panicking, I should consider not panicking.

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Eldkatten

Having performed music it was allways a problem for me to handle feedback. Not the critical ones, those I can handle, by asking what exactly was bad and how they think I could improve it. It's the "Wow! That was great!" feedbacks that make me helpless and wanting to run away. A friend of mine once advised me to handle praise the same way as rebuke, so the next time someone came and said "This was so beautiful!", I started to ask "Why exactly do you think so?"... making *them* run away.

pam obv10usly

I understand. It’s so hard to accept that something bad is not lurking just behind it! I’m just trying to handle it the Buddhist way. Life is good? It’s fine. It won’t last. Life is bad? It’s fine. It won’t last either. :)

foxesinlove

I'm actually so grateful I learned out of thinking things happen for a reason when BAD things were happening. I managed to teach myself that they're not my fault, things just happen for no reason, and I happened to just be in the impact zone. If good things had started pouring at me at a time like that, it would have short circuit my brain.

foxesinlove

As a small kid in school, I REALLY wanted to learn how to draw better, and DEMANDED adults and peers for constructive criticism on my drawings. I never got any, but I decided to show by example and pointed out the flaws on my classmates' art in an attempt to establish "treat others like you'd want to be treated". It did not land well.

Jessica

It's not easy teaching your worried mind to worry or panic less. I have "talks" with myself: can I control this? Not really, and that usually takes the edge off of it.

Ian R

Add it to the manual.

Charity A. Petrov

Try to "interview" yourself when the panic hits, ask yourself why you're freaked out, what are you really afraid is going to happen, things like that. It's so much easier to fight back against the known than the unknown. Another tip: try to focus on where in your body the panic is happening and deal with *that*: slow your breathing, unclench your muscles, etc.