Bringing up Conflict, Part Two: Tips & Tools (Patreon)

Hi! Happy Easter, if you celebrate. 🐣

Following up to last week's patron exclusive, here's part two about bringing up conflict. Here are some practical tools that I use in my own life to maximize the chances I'm understood the way I intend, and to avoid setting an adversarial vibe to the conversation. As always, this is just what works for me, but please feel free to use or adapt these things, if you think they might suit you.

Timecode:

• 0.00 - Intro

• 01.05 - Headline thought (not too general, not too specific)

• 03.23 - Logistics (when? where? in what format?)

• 05.55 - What is the goal? (e.g. to just be heard, to brainstorm solutions, to have them agree to start or stop doing something, etc.)

• 08.20 - Same team reminders (time outs, tap outs, safe words, self soothing/regulation, coming back together to be teammates in resolving the conflict)

• 10.40 - Avoiding landmines (trying to avoid causing new pain, even if we're hurting. Thoughtfulness with form, but not mistaking form for substance...)

• 13.15 - Exit plan (post-conflict plan to end things cleanly, switch gears or even aid in resolution)

• 16.13 - Outro

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Transcript attached at the bottom of this post, auto-generated by Otter AI.

With love,
Genevieve