Holly Jolly Boundary Phrases (Patreon)

Patrons!!

The time has come. The pre-holiday season for many of us and the part where there's a lot of planning that takes place. 

Friends, I get so much joy out of the holidays. It can be a really fun magical time in so many ways. It's also a time that our typical obligations and pressures can really increase. It's a time when a lot of folks have pressure to compromise on boundaries of all kinds. It can also be a really tough time for anyone who doesn't have the typical positive associations with the holiday season. 

Feetie Pyjama Brenda appeared in a comic a few years ago as a reminder to take rest, take space, set boundaries, say no, name needs, and do all those things that prioritize your wellbeing over what's expected of you.

This is something I still work on all the time and I certainly don't always find it easy. It's hard to say no, especially to people we love. BUT my experience with boundaries has been that the people that truly bring value to my life have ALWAYS been folks who respected them. 

YOU sweet Patrons, have directly contributed to me being able to take time off when I need it, and say no when things don't feel right, and try to unlearn that deep fear of "just get the gig" as an artist, all things that have helped me be a MUCH healthier creative. For that I am grateful all year round. 

So here's to declining things that don't bring you joy, and asking for things you know you'll need ANY time of year, not just the holiday season.

Sending you wellness and feetie-pyjamas,

B