リク　雑記eng　♯2865 (Pixiv Fanbox)

シャンティーニュさん。

私は親から「人生に無駄なことは無いんだよ」

と何度も言われて育ちました。

子供の頃はそうなのか～と思いながら聞いていたけど。

成長するにつれて「無駄かどうかは本人が決めることであって、無駄じゃないと一方的に決め付けるのは傲慢では？」

と思うようになりました。

なので「拉致監禁され10年間暴行受けてた被害者が、10年間無駄にしたって泣いてたらその人の前で同じこと言う？自分は同じ苦しみを知らないのに？」

「事件で殺された人は代償に何を得るの？遺族の前でも無駄じゃないって言うの？」

と質問してみたところ、親は何も言い返せませんでした。

どうやら親は受け売りで言ってただけで、そこに考えは無かったようです😂

無駄じゃないと言えるのは、経験を消化出来た人間の理屈であって

今苦しんでる人にその言葉を投げかけるのはとても残酷だと思うのです。

強者の理屈は弱者に響かない。

だから私が言うなら

「考え方次第では人生に無駄は無いと言えるかもしれないが、

他者が決め付けることはできない。」

かな☺️

I grew up with parents who repeatedly told me, "Nothing in life is wasted.

I grew up being told this over and over again.

When I was a child, I listened to them thinking, "Is that so?

As I grew up, I began to think, "Whether something is a waste or not is for the individual to decide, and it would be arrogant of me to unilaterally assume that it is not a waste."

I came to think.

So I asked myself, "If a victim who was abducted, confined, and beaten for 10 years cried that he or she wasted 10 years, would you say the same thing in front of that person? Even though you don't know the same suffering?"

And "What does the person killed in the incident get in return? Would you say in front of the bereaved family that it wasn't a waste?"

When I asked the question, the parent could not say anything back.

Apparently, my parents were just saying what they were told and there was no thought there 😂.

The only reason I can say it's not a waste of time is the logic of someone who has been able to digest the experience.

I think it's very cruel to throw those words at people who are suffering now.

The logic of the strong does not resonate with the weak.

So if I were to say.

"Depending on one's perspective, one might say that life is not wasted, but

others can't decide for you."

I guess ☺️.