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Today, we're talking 'Post-O shame' 

*the post-orgasm shame that follows watching kinkier porn or masturbating.*

I wanted to pose this question because I get a lot of messages from people describing how BKS and audio erotica more generally has helped them overcome this issue and I wanted everyone to be able to get the chance to share their stories or journeys of getting past this and what has helped them the most. To hopefully help others do the same.

Have you experienced post-orgasm shame? 

When has it been the worst in the past (e.g. specific porn, fantasies, things you do etc)?

How did you deal with it? And has audio erotica helped this over time? Any interesting stories or instances that you remember?

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Jace

Certain kinks and/or “toxic” storylines have absolutely opened up conversations for me to have with my partner, if not my therapist. There’s a level of intimacy and that I feel audio erotica has provided me without feeling weirdly attracted to yet unattached to an adult star’s performance in traditional visual pornography; I feel like I can safely navigate these experiences here! I do greatly appreciate the writers and the impromptu works of the voice actors here for including check in points and natural levels of highs and lows in these dialogues and alternate universe scenarios. I feel these allow me to process how I’m mentally and physically reacting to certain cues or concepts without feeling locked into an intense adult film that’s all fantasy no safety if that makes sense.

Sara

I 100% have - masturbatoon pre relationship - and yes the audios helped! Especially any after care, let me know that all was right with the world. Now with my boyfriend I feel utterly free to feel what I feel, and he’s the perfect support system for afterwards too :)

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Missy Brie

Can confirm in my personal experience that I've had post orgasm shame with traditional porn a few times but never with audio erotica

Verachia

I have been sa survivor once with my cousin as a child and then later on with my ex best friend... I have done therapy to overcome the trauma, and I've gotten to the age where I feel gross after watching porn. It's so disconnected. These audios feel safe, emotionally my world runs wild and I'm satiated. It's also scratched a need to not think being spoken to in the most degrading way while feeling utterly loved and appreciated all at the same time.

Mavka

BKS in particular-along with Badjhur - are like exposure therapy. It’s the only safe way I have of desensitization to triggers like touching or oral sex (though the overwhelming amount of slapping and spanking could do with being taken down several notches! Why is there so much violence involved in these scripts? That stuff scares me and makes me not want to try dating again.) I do feel hollow or emotionless or ashamed after an O most of the time- and more often than not it its because I’ve never been able to finish with a partner IRL, something that’s gotten me verbally or physically abused by almost every partner I’ve ever had save for maybe two. Audio erotica helps me feel a little better, especially the ones where there’s more aftercare involved. I’ve never gotten aftercare irl. Sadly my only experiences with it are through BKS & Badjhur and some spicy books.

Alisa Strickland

I’ve actually felt alot of shame around sex in general for most of my life (I’m 28) though I’ve always known when I did have sex I liked it on the kinkier rougher side, which to me felt like a nightmare. When I would watch more visual porn I always felt dirty after. And I hated it. Finding audio had been both the biggest confidence boost and allowed me to discover myself at my own pace. Now audio and smut are the only forms of porn I consume.