The Importance of Setting Boundaries (Patreon)

“People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you”.

This doesn’t mean you’re at fault if someone treats you poorly, more like, you are responsible for either upholding or confronting said treatment. Do you accept or reject it? 

I for one struggle with this. As I’m sure many of you guys do too, as a lot of us are natural people pleasers. We want to give people a chance, we want to see the good, heck, sometimes we’d even like to be wrong about people.

And whilst there’s nothing wrong with wanting to see the good in people, the issue lies in not taking on other people’s negative treatment as your problem.

There’s obviously a lot of grey here, factors, circumstances, health, context, but case by case, day by day, we have to decide what we’re going to accept and what we’re going to reject.

Moral of the very vague story - don’t internalise people’s shit. How someone treats you usual says far more about them than it does about you - for better or worse.

Stay safe, be kind.