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my 10 week miscarriage, D&C and dealing with loss

A long and thorough video about my pregnancy and miscarriage. In this video: 2:20 why am I doing this video, why talking about miscarriage 3:09 disclaimers 5:07 thoughts and fears about motherhood and getting pregnant 10:01 being pregnant during a pandemic 12:52 how was my pregnancy 13:22 any early signs of miscarriage? 14:07 how we found out 19:31 options available when you have a miscarriage 24:21 sharing the news with friends and family 28:54 the day of my procedure 29:26 about D&C 32:29 what happens after the procedure 36:03 when to call emergency 37:59 why no one talks about this 41:44 how do I feel now, dealing with loss 44:22 comforting someone who's going through loss 46:13 if you're going through miscarriage Reddit post my patron sent me about loss: "As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out." PATREON For behind the scenes into all the projects I'm working on RIGHT NOW, more sketchbook tours, secret Q&As, podcast-newsletter AND illustration club YAAY!, support my work on Patreon! :) https://www.patreon.com/frannerd what's patreon https://goo.gl/xYxMm1 FOLLOW ME ALL social media Twitter, instagram @frannerd Online shop https://wearenicehumans.com Portfolio www.frannerd.cl VIDEO CREDITS Thank you so so much to super Kevin for writing the spanish subtitles! We loooove you Keviin! All my music is from Epidemic Sound Camera Canon EOS M6 with a 22 lens I use DaVinci Resolve for editing!