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Kirk and Bob answer patron emails.

00:00 Betrayal trauma

17:18 Being 'too' self aware

33:03 Kirk transference

42:51 Ethical termination of therapy

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August 4, 2023

The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®

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Anonymous

"People like it when you talk a lot Bob", Thank you dr. Kirk xD advocating for us. This episode is lovely... 25 minutes in and I can't help but think that I hope this would be in spanish so my therapist could listen to this. If you ever need/want someone to translate your videos (like cc) I'd be so so glad to do that. 42: Is it weird that I feel like this podcasts you do with Bob are correcting experiences? I feel less hatred towards myself when I listen to you. Maybe I'm weird

Anonymous

Bob - I am curious if your "defectiveness schema" is that you are not as good as others wherein most people are great, and you personally don't measure up? Or is it more broad than that? I think I have a "defectiveness schema" as well. However, my feelings of uselessness, defectiveness, grossness, etc, apply to everyone equally. Is that common, or something else altogether?

Anonymous

Interesting questions. I think my defectiveness schema is that I am convinced I won’t measure up, so I wind up as a high self-monitor and hold myself to a standard and tend to think that whatever I have done is short of the mark, and I am frequently surprised when I get (objective? outside?) feedback that what I have done is enough or good. To your question: I’m not sure if I think most people are great and get stuck in comparison. I am frequently amazed when others are comfortable with asserting themselves without any apparent self-consciousness or doubt. I tend to believe that what I want must be wrong/bad/shameful based on the sole fact that I want - for wants that are apparent to me. I am often foggy about my wants. When I know them I am often private about my wants as well, which I think makes it hard for my close people. I avoid conspicuous consumption.